What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ. my husband of 26 years desserted me in 12/09,due to his addiction to pain meds. I couldnt take the mental and verbal abuse anymore and I confronted him on his addiction and also him selling pills.he has a prior history of addiction in 1998 that caused us bankruptcy. he went to live with a 26 year old couple. he currently collects SSDI/unemployment. we tried to reconcile, he went to rehab for 4 hours. yesterday I received a letter from an attorney demanding I get a large amount of money out of our home equity account for his cost of living. he sleeps on a couch. he is deathly ill at this time due to cancer,diabetes,bipolar and pain med addiction. My salary and other bank accounts arent doable. this couple is claiming that he owe him this money. I have been paying for everything in our home since 12/09 and even prior to that as he lost his job due to being high. can the courts make me go into more debt because he choice to leave? he recently sold his car I bought him for cash. this couple is going bankrupt and have harrassed me at work and home and I had a temp.restraining order back in dec. which a judge lifted as he didnt believe me that my husband threatened to kill us both so no one gets the house.