angeleyzad
Member
What is the name of your state? ME
I knew our new schedule was going to be a pain. My ex had a motion to modify, one of the main things he was looking to do was swap the weekend schedule so that he had our boys on the same weekend as his step-daughter. I was against it because of the schedule of my step-son and my nephews. The judge ordered that our schedule swap 3 times throughout the year - after Christmas vacation, after his February or April vacations, and after Summer vacation. The judge also put in the provision that if his vacation time included any part of either a Saturday or a Sunday, that I get the next weekend, even if it was supposed to be his, and we continue our alternating schedule after that. So, we swapped weekends after Christmas, the kids were supposed to be with him the first weekend if we had followed our original schedule, but, since we had to swap weekends, it became mine. No matter what, it would have been my weekend anyway with the judge's provision. But, to continue on the new schedule, the second weekend was his, and so on. Now we come to February vacation. He had February vacation, including the weekend at the end of vacation. In order to swap weekends again, the next weekend (this weekend coming up) would now become his weekend. But, due to the provision of the judge, I now get this weekend. Next weekend is also mine, due to the again swapped weekend schedule. This is where the problem lies. He does not want to go 2 weekends between his time (which could happen anyway, in order to swap the weekends, plus other holidays could cause that, such as Memorial and Labor Day Weekends). He keeps insisting that where this weekend is mine, the next weekend is his. (which, if this were the case, the schedule does not adjust). He is only looking at one part of the new provision. He will not listen to anything I say. He insists that he is coming to pick up the kids, and if I do not give them to him, he will file contempt.
I want to get your opinion on this ruling, and how you interpret it. I could see where he interprets it his way, which would be correct if the first part of the paragraph is not there to adjust the schedule. But, I am trying to get him to realize that you need to take both aspects into consideration.
Also, I have 2 different e-mails from him talking about switching weekends, and when we're supposed to switch. Is it just me, or did he blow his supposed contempt charge right out of the water? He claims that he's going to file contempt for not giving him what he thinks is his weekend, yet he's e-mailed me twice about swapping weekends (basically I have to do it on his terms, not according to the new order)
This is the provision:
b. The weekend rotation will be adjusted at predetermined points throughout the year. These points are after the Defendant's February/April vacation, after the Defendant's Summer vacation, and after the Defendant's Christmas vacation. When the Defendant's vacation time includes a weekend* (excerpt from judge: *includes a weekend means it includes at least part of either a Saturday or Sunday), the Plaintiff will have the children the weekend following these vacations, regardless if it was the defendant's scheduled weekend, and the rotation weekend schedule will continue thereafter.
I know one thing that my ex was upset about was he lost the provision that he had before to have the kids on the day of or the day after their birthday, because of his long travel. Now he only has them on their birthday if it falls on his regular weekend, otherwise he already has them the weekend before or after because of the EOW. This weekend happens to be our youngest's birthday.
I knew our new schedule was going to be a pain. My ex had a motion to modify, one of the main things he was looking to do was swap the weekend schedule so that he had our boys on the same weekend as his step-daughter. I was against it because of the schedule of my step-son and my nephews. The judge ordered that our schedule swap 3 times throughout the year - after Christmas vacation, after his February or April vacations, and after Summer vacation. The judge also put in the provision that if his vacation time included any part of either a Saturday or a Sunday, that I get the next weekend, even if it was supposed to be his, and we continue our alternating schedule after that. So, we swapped weekends after Christmas, the kids were supposed to be with him the first weekend if we had followed our original schedule, but, since we had to swap weekends, it became mine. No matter what, it would have been my weekend anyway with the judge's provision. But, to continue on the new schedule, the second weekend was his, and so on. Now we come to February vacation. He had February vacation, including the weekend at the end of vacation. In order to swap weekends again, the next weekend (this weekend coming up) would now become his weekend. But, due to the provision of the judge, I now get this weekend. Next weekend is also mine, due to the again swapped weekend schedule. This is where the problem lies. He does not want to go 2 weekends between his time (which could happen anyway, in order to swap the weekends, plus other holidays could cause that, such as Memorial and Labor Day Weekends). He keeps insisting that where this weekend is mine, the next weekend is his. (which, if this were the case, the schedule does not adjust). He is only looking at one part of the new provision. He will not listen to anything I say. He insists that he is coming to pick up the kids, and if I do not give them to him, he will file contempt.
I want to get your opinion on this ruling, and how you interpret it. I could see where he interprets it his way, which would be correct if the first part of the paragraph is not there to adjust the schedule. But, I am trying to get him to realize that you need to take both aspects into consideration.
Also, I have 2 different e-mails from him talking about switching weekends, and when we're supposed to switch. Is it just me, or did he blow his supposed contempt charge right out of the water? He claims that he's going to file contempt for not giving him what he thinks is his weekend, yet he's e-mailed me twice about swapping weekends (basically I have to do it on his terms, not according to the new order)
This is the provision:
b. The weekend rotation will be adjusted at predetermined points throughout the year. These points are after the Defendant's February/April vacation, after the Defendant's Summer vacation, and after the Defendant's Christmas vacation. When the Defendant's vacation time includes a weekend* (excerpt from judge: *includes a weekend means it includes at least part of either a Saturday or Sunday), the Plaintiff will have the children the weekend following these vacations, regardless if it was the defendant's scheduled weekend, and the rotation weekend schedule will continue thereafter.
I know one thing that my ex was upset about was he lost the provision that he had before to have the kids on the day of or the day after their birthday, because of his long travel. Now he only has them on their birthday if it falls on his regular weekend, otherwise he already has them the weekend before or after because of the EOW. This weekend happens to be our youngest's birthday.