After holding a family meeting between myself, my wife, and my son, we agreed to take the $8000 settlement. We decided the emotional stress of dealing with the "vultures" of the family was not worth another $8000. We were never close and we will never be speaking to these distant family members again. We just want to end this chapter in our lives and get on with our happy lives here where we are and go back to the pleasant family we have among ourselves.
Thanks for all the advice. I truly appreciate it.