What is the name of your state? SC
My friend, age 40, is separated from her husband (not legally?) after a marriage of 15 years. He chose to move out. She lives with her 12 year old daughter in a condo. She is mentally disabled (OCD). I don’t believe that she is able to hold employment that will allow her to even come close to supporting herself and her daughter.
The marital assets appear to be limited to the condo acquired during the marriage, which is in his name, and an inheritance (not sure how much) from her grandfather. Somehow, his name is included on this account as well. This is very bothersome to me. This is apparently the only source of money and it is limited. The husband is currently unemployed.
They are planning to divorce. The husband is supposedly working on the divorce with his lawyer or paralegal. He insists that she not discuss the divorce with anyone. He tells her that this would prolong the process. He is right about that I’m sure. It seems to me that he is threatening to stall the divorce if she does discuss it with anyone outside. I am very concerned that her interests are not being considered as they should be. I have suggested several times that she should at least seek the advice of a lawyer. She resists the idea saying that she just wants to get it over with. I have explained that without a lawyer to represent her interests, she may be left with nothing. This is made much worse by her lacking the ability to support herself.
I have tried to at least convince her not to sign any papers until she at least has someone look at them for her.
I am very concerned for her future.
I do not believe that he should be entitled to anything from her inheritance.
I think she should receive at least 50% share of the condo and if the child continues to live with her, she should be allowed to live there as long as the child is dependent.
I think she should receive child support if the child continues to live with her.
Spousal support would certainly be helpful in her situation.
I’m not sure what the custody arrangement will be. I am sure that he child should live with her mother. A joint custody arrangement might be okay.
It especially concerns me that her husband is intent on dictating the terms of the divorce.
He will be able to do this if she is not “allowed to” have someone represent her.
For instance, he has stated that she may live in the condo for 3 years, after that it is her problem what she does. Remember, she is disabled and unlikely to be able to support herself in the future.
Any ideas about this situation are helpful.
Thanks
My friend, age 40, is separated from her husband (not legally?) after a marriage of 15 years. He chose to move out. She lives with her 12 year old daughter in a condo. She is mentally disabled (OCD). I don’t believe that she is able to hold employment that will allow her to even come close to supporting herself and her daughter.
The marital assets appear to be limited to the condo acquired during the marriage, which is in his name, and an inheritance (not sure how much) from her grandfather. Somehow, his name is included on this account as well. This is very bothersome to me. This is apparently the only source of money and it is limited. The husband is currently unemployed.
They are planning to divorce. The husband is supposedly working on the divorce with his lawyer or paralegal. He insists that she not discuss the divorce with anyone. He tells her that this would prolong the process. He is right about that I’m sure. It seems to me that he is threatening to stall the divorce if she does discuss it with anyone outside. I am very concerned that her interests are not being considered as they should be. I have suggested several times that she should at least seek the advice of a lawyer. She resists the idea saying that she just wants to get it over with. I have explained that without a lawyer to represent her interests, she may be left with nothing. This is made much worse by her lacking the ability to support herself.
I have tried to at least convince her not to sign any papers until she at least has someone look at them for her.
I am very concerned for her future.
I do not believe that he should be entitled to anything from her inheritance.
I think she should receive at least 50% share of the condo and if the child continues to live with her, she should be allowed to live there as long as the child is dependent.
I think she should receive child support if the child continues to live with her.
Spousal support would certainly be helpful in her situation.
I’m not sure what the custody arrangement will be. I am sure that he child should live with her mother. A joint custody arrangement might be okay.
It especially concerns me that her husband is intent on dictating the terms of the divorce.
He will be able to do this if she is not “allowed to” have someone represent her.
For instance, he has stated that she may live in the condo for 3 years, after that it is her problem what she does. Remember, she is disabled and unlikely to be able to support herself in the future.
Any ideas about this situation are helpful.
Thanks