shebthegirl
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Kansas
I have been married less than a year. My husband, prior to our marriage, assured me his finances were in order (he'd been less than responsible in his past). I even saw documents where he had paid off a loan, made his house payments, filed his current taxes, basically to calm my fears-and everything looked good. Now in the last few months I have found that he has not paid property tax on his house since 2002. And the IRS just this month started garnishing his wages (75%) for an amount he will not disclose to me. Finally he said he owes them something like $40,000 from prior years. I feel defrauded. Seems as tho he moved quite a bit, and never had his mail forwarded, to avoid being caught.
Now I am trying to find a job, but they are scarce. I was taking prereq courses for Respiratory Therapy, which I was to attend in the fall. But now this happened, and I know schooling is out of the question. I need to get a job to support myself. I realize also that even if I got temporary support, he would just run. Also, I recently discovered, thru a conversation I had with him, that at one time he had 7 felony charges against him for a domestic at his ex's. He claims they were reduced to misdemeanors, but there was physical violence and damage to property. He has a temper whenever I disagree with him about anything, so I've been very careful to just agree to whatever he says. Should I get a restraining order? The home we live in belongs to my elderly parents-it's right next door to them, so I can care for them. We pay no rent (upkeep on the property and my caring for my parents is, basically, rent) Can I have the locks changed? He works out of state, and his employer furnishes an apartment for him there, so he has a place to live.
Do I file for divorce, or try for an annulment based on fraud? I have always done without in order to keep a good credit score-the stress of his constant (past) financial irresponsiblities, and trying to keep him from getting US into debt is unbelievable. He brought over $75,000 worth of negative debt into this marriage, all without my knowledge. I did not marry this man for money-I knew he was not well off. But I had absolutely no idea that marrying him would be financial ruin. All this debt, and his comment to me on his last day off, was he "wished his boss would lay him off so he could collect unemployment!"
I have been married less than a year. My husband, prior to our marriage, assured me his finances were in order (he'd been less than responsible in his past). I even saw documents where he had paid off a loan, made his house payments, filed his current taxes, basically to calm my fears-and everything looked good. Now in the last few months I have found that he has not paid property tax on his house since 2002. And the IRS just this month started garnishing his wages (75%) for an amount he will not disclose to me. Finally he said he owes them something like $40,000 from prior years. I feel defrauded. Seems as tho he moved quite a bit, and never had his mail forwarded, to avoid being caught.
Now I am trying to find a job, but they are scarce. I was taking prereq courses for Respiratory Therapy, which I was to attend in the fall. But now this happened, and I know schooling is out of the question. I need to get a job to support myself. I realize also that even if I got temporary support, he would just run. Also, I recently discovered, thru a conversation I had with him, that at one time he had 7 felony charges against him for a domestic at his ex's. He claims they were reduced to misdemeanors, but there was physical violence and damage to property. He has a temper whenever I disagree with him about anything, so I've been very careful to just agree to whatever he says. Should I get a restraining order? The home we live in belongs to my elderly parents-it's right next door to them, so I can care for them. We pay no rent (upkeep on the property and my caring for my parents is, basically, rent) Can I have the locks changed? He works out of state, and his employer furnishes an apartment for him there, so he has a place to live.
Do I file for divorce, or try for an annulment based on fraud? I have always done without in order to keep a good credit score-the stress of his constant (past) financial irresponsiblities, and trying to keep him from getting US into debt is unbelievable. He brought over $75,000 worth of negative debt into this marriage, all without my knowledge. I did not marry this man for money-I knew he was not well off. But I had absolutely no idea that marrying him would be financial ruin. All this debt, and his comment to me on his last day off, was he "wished his boss would lay him off so he could collect unemployment!"
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