Konnersmama
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? VA
Almost a year ago BIL borrowed money from us....rather DH (it was behind my back) with the promise of getting all or most back within a month....it's been 10 months and we haven't seen a dome. Neither BIL or SIL work....have 3 children, a mortgage, car payments and weren't even able to buy groceries.....they guilted DH ( we had been asked 4 months prior and we told them no). As I said, neither one work....they are "Stay at home PARENTS"....THIS is important for them.....both are 100% capable of working yet neither one of them do b/c "God will provide"....meaning DH....the rest of the family told them no more. I have no problem helping family, but they have to be helping themselves also....this wasn't the case.
We have proof of them "playing" all day, buying big items (credit card), going on vacations and basically "living it up". I want the money returned....DH and I work hard and I feel like he was taken advantage of (he is easily guilted when it comes to his family). BIL/SIL act as if we never gave them anything and have made no attempts to repay us.
Do we have a case? I want to take them to small claims....but the "verbal contract" was between BIL and DH....he's afraid of going to court b/c it's "family".
Thanks!
Almost a year ago BIL borrowed money from us....rather DH (it was behind my back) with the promise of getting all or most back within a month....it's been 10 months and we haven't seen a dome. Neither BIL or SIL work....have 3 children, a mortgage, car payments and weren't even able to buy groceries.....they guilted DH ( we had been asked 4 months prior and we told them no). As I said, neither one work....they are "Stay at home PARENTS"....THIS is important for them.....both are 100% capable of working yet neither one of them do b/c "God will provide"....meaning DH....the rest of the family told them no more. I have no problem helping family, but they have to be helping themselves also....this wasn't the case.
We have proof of them "playing" all day, buying big items (credit card), going on vacations and basically "living it up". I want the money returned....DH and I work hard and I feel like he was taken advantage of (he is easily guilted when it comes to his family). BIL/SIL act as if we never gave them anything and have made no attempts to repay us.
Do we have a case? I want to take them to small claims....but the "verbal contract" was between BIL and DH....he's afraid of going to court b/c it's "family".
Thanks!