LdiJ
Senior Member
I think that the two most logical things to do would be to offer to compensate dad for doing all the driving for those one or two visitations, and offer dad the alternative of taking makeup time instead. That way you are giving him two choices. As long as you are doing that, I do not think that a judge is doing to ding you. A judge is going to know that a pregnant mother cannot travel for a short period of time before and after birth. However, you might find that it ends up being three visits that are impacted. I think it will be a minimum of two because you will need recovery time after the birth before you can drive long distance again.They would rather make HIS life more difficult. They got mad cuz I talked him into using his thanksgiving time with her (he ended up canceling so the point was moot), but yes. If he doesn't get her, they consider it a win. They don't think logically.
Plus, they had problems with him when we were married. Given the events of the divorce, he migh5 as well be public enemy number 1. I've accepted it. I do what I can for my child's sake.
If I'm put on be dress, he'll be there for me. But he will not give up being at the birth of his child and I won't ask him to. That includes a c section.
Birth of child: happens once in the lifetime of a child. Birth of his first child is once in his lifetime event. Visitation with father: happens every other weekend.
My bf transporting instead of being at his child's birth is not happening. Besides: I've read other posts on here where step parents make posts. It is quite clear where they stand: legal stranger. Child is none of their business. It's a bit hypocritical to request a person to forgo being at the birth of their biological and legal child in order to play taxi for a "legal stranger". Don't you think?
I will also add that I agree with you that it would be totally unreasonable to expect your boyfriend to risk missing the birth of his first child just to facilitate dad's visitation.
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