The original order was made at our divorce. He was violent, abusive and negligent and my daughters we repeatedly begging not to go see him anymore. I told him, asked him to let the children skip a few weekends, and he flew off the handle and threatened me, and began threatening my daughters through text. I filed to modify the order based on the saved text messages and my daughters wishes to not be forced to go anymore. We were granted a protection order so he couldn't take the kids while we waited for our court date. The judge quickly granted my request, and my daughters now get to decide when and if they want to see him, which is almost never. He's a narcissist and doesn't like the lack of control he has, so he keeps crying ROFR, saying it still applies because the new order doesn't spell out that it doesn't apply. I approve of the new order, it protects my daughters, but the ROFR part needs to be spelled out for him apparently. He won't ever assume that the new arrangement eliminated it, because that takes away even more control from him. I'm headed to the courthouse soon to see about a Motion to Clarify, or whatever the wording is. I just want to make sure I get to live my life with my fiancé and daughters without him trying to control our lives.
Things have to be spelled out for this man, and he will not stop claiming he has ROFR over two teens that are allowed to make the choice about seeing him or not. It's incredibly exhausting, and I'm tired of going to court every couple of years because he just has to rock the boat. It's never once worked well for him in court, 13 years of judges putting him in his place. I just sit back and continue to follow the rules and take care of my girls. But 13 years of this is taking it's toll on us.