What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TN
I have an 11 year old daughter with my ex (never married). They reside in TN and I in LA (for the past 3 years).
The last couple of years, since our daughter started middle school, she's been having issues with her grades and conduct in school. Obviously, I'm sure it has a lot to do with being an adolescent girl and focusing more on friends and boys rather than school. Unfortunately, her grades are suffering. I speak to her almost every day about homework, studying, etc.. reminding her to turn in assignments, asking her if she's studied and helping with homework. I'm able to keep up with her assignments and grades online and am constantly seeing zero's where she hasn't turned in homework and is showing very poor test/quiz grades. Her first report card was recently issued and she's already failing.
She's also had behavioral problems at home, lashing out at her mom, mom's boyfriend and half-sister. She frequently gets in trouble at school for talking and disrupting the class.
Mom has called me on several occasions about her behavior, telling me she just doesn't know what to do with her anymore and relying on me to "fix" the problem. Well, I can only do so much. Since our daughter doesn't live with me, it's hard for me to enforce anything I tell her to do. I have to rely on Mom to follow through. Mom has also admitted that she doesn't keep as close an eye on her school work as she should, citing work and her own education as well as another young child at home.
Our daughter doesn't have any kind of learning disability and is, actually, extremely intelligent. Her teachers have remarked that she does quite well when she applies herself.
When we had this very same discussion last school year about her failing grades, I suggested to Mom that if things don't start looking up, that I would like the opportunity to have daughter come stay with me during a school year to see if I can help turn her around. Mom said she'd think about it, but it never came up again. I plan on asking her about this again, though, understandably, she probably won't go for it.
I hate to go over her head, as we have a pretty good co-parenting relationship and wouldn't want to do anything to disrupt that. But, if it's better for our daughter in the long run, then I want to do what's best for her. Would any of this constitute a change in custody?
Let me also say that I'm in no way trying to find a way to take custody from Mom, as I know some parents try to do. I'm merely trying to find a way to help our daughter.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I have an 11 year old daughter with my ex (never married). They reside in TN and I in LA (for the past 3 years).
The last couple of years, since our daughter started middle school, she's been having issues with her grades and conduct in school. Obviously, I'm sure it has a lot to do with being an adolescent girl and focusing more on friends and boys rather than school. Unfortunately, her grades are suffering. I speak to her almost every day about homework, studying, etc.. reminding her to turn in assignments, asking her if she's studied and helping with homework. I'm able to keep up with her assignments and grades online and am constantly seeing zero's where she hasn't turned in homework and is showing very poor test/quiz grades. Her first report card was recently issued and she's already failing.
She's also had behavioral problems at home, lashing out at her mom, mom's boyfriend and half-sister. She frequently gets in trouble at school for talking and disrupting the class.
Mom has called me on several occasions about her behavior, telling me she just doesn't know what to do with her anymore and relying on me to "fix" the problem. Well, I can only do so much. Since our daughter doesn't live with me, it's hard for me to enforce anything I tell her to do. I have to rely on Mom to follow through. Mom has also admitted that she doesn't keep as close an eye on her school work as she should, citing work and her own education as well as another young child at home.
Our daughter doesn't have any kind of learning disability and is, actually, extremely intelligent. Her teachers have remarked that she does quite well when she applies herself.
When we had this very same discussion last school year about her failing grades, I suggested to Mom that if things don't start looking up, that I would like the opportunity to have daughter come stay with me during a school year to see if I can help turn her around. Mom said she'd think about it, but it never came up again. I plan on asking her about this again, though, understandably, she probably won't go for it.
I hate to go over her head, as we have a pretty good co-parenting relationship and wouldn't want to do anything to disrupt that. But, if it's better for our daughter in the long run, then I want to do what's best for her. Would any of this constitute a change in custody?
Let me also say that I'm in no way trying to find a way to take custody from Mom, as I know some parents try to do. I'm merely trying to find a way to help our daughter.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?