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Lorri24
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What is the name of your state? sc
After 13 years of periodic physical abuse and daily mental abuse I had had enough and called 911 after my husband shoved my around and verbally attacked me in front of my 11, 8, 1 year old children. When the police arrived i was told that they could not remove my husband from the home unless i wanted to press charges. This time i had no marks on me , but my husband did on his arm from when I tried pushing him off of me. He told the police that he didn't want to press charges either. He did start accusing me of all these things one of which was writing bad checks on purpose and I never did that. I did write 3 checks and had them postdated because they were for the childrens doctor visits. The officer believed him and turned around and started lecturing me that i could go to jail and he wouldn't listen to me explain. He said i was irrational and that i needed to calm down. When i pleaded with him to listen to my side. He said "i warned you now you are under arrest" I waived my rights to a appointed lawyer because i thought my family would hire own for me. Wrong! So I couldn't pay one and i was lead to believe by the police and court that i couldn't have a court appointed lawyer because i waived my rights, so i had to represent myself. I faced a $1,000 fine and/or 30 days. I didn't know what to do. By then I had asked the officer what options i had and after several in depth conversations about my situation, he felt bad that he had to arrest me. so, he said that he would speak to the judge and ask him to waive any fines/or jail time if i plead guilty. He never explained that a cdv was a felony or that it would be on my record for the rest of my life and how hard it would be to get a job. All he said was that i would not be able to hold a gov't position that required carrying a fire arm. I don't like guns so i thought that's not a big deal. 6 months later having applied to 20 jobs, not one interview. I am well qualified. Since i feel they took advantage of my situation. Can I get the charge changed, or can i do anything at all? My husband and i are still living together, but i am getting ready to file papers for seperation, custody and support. Until a good friend help me to see how battered i was -emotionally!!!!!!!!!!!!!i never new how bad it was . I was severely depressed and began medication, which helped me to get better. i feel that my emotional state, low-self esteem and not being able to cope with my husbands abuse anymore are should be a factor in this case. What does anyone think. Please help.
After 13 years of periodic physical abuse and daily mental abuse I had had enough and called 911 after my husband shoved my around and verbally attacked me in front of my 11, 8, 1 year old children. When the police arrived i was told that they could not remove my husband from the home unless i wanted to press charges. This time i had no marks on me , but my husband did on his arm from when I tried pushing him off of me. He told the police that he didn't want to press charges either. He did start accusing me of all these things one of which was writing bad checks on purpose and I never did that. I did write 3 checks and had them postdated because they were for the childrens doctor visits. The officer believed him and turned around and started lecturing me that i could go to jail and he wouldn't listen to me explain. He said i was irrational and that i needed to calm down. When i pleaded with him to listen to my side. He said "i warned you now you are under arrest" I waived my rights to a appointed lawyer because i thought my family would hire own for me. Wrong! So I couldn't pay one and i was lead to believe by the police and court that i couldn't have a court appointed lawyer because i waived my rights, so i had to represent myself. I faced a $1,000 fine and/or 30 days. I didn't know what to do. By then I had asked the officer what options i had and after several in depth conversations about my situation, he felt bad that he had to arrest me. so, he said that he would speak to the judge and ask him to waive any fines/or jail time if i plead guilty. He never explained that a cdv was a felony or that it would be on my record for the rest of my life and how hard it would be to get a job. All he said was that i would not be able to hold a gov't position that required carrying a fire arm. I don't like guns so i thought that's not a big deal. 6 months later having applied to 20 jobs, not one interview. I am well qualified. Since i feel they took advantage of my situation. Can I get the charge changed, or can i do anything at all? My husband and i are still living together, but i am getting ready to file papers for seperation, custody and support. Until a good friend help me to see how battered i was -emotionally!!!!!!!!!!!!!i never new how bad it was . I was severely depressed and began medication, which helped me to get better. i feel that my emotional state, low-self esteem and not being able to cope with my husbands abuse anymore are should be a factor in this case. What does anyone think. Please help.