Chances are high now that dad has come forward that he will get joint legal. So what you want, has now become what you both want. Many of these issues must be discussed jointly and you and dad must come to a middle ground on them. As I said in my other post, my grandsons father was not there the first 2 1/2 years, on top of that he lives in another state, however the court gave him right out of the gate, joint legal. So from that point forward, my daughter has to now discuss things with him and come to joint decisions.
Can't tell you what he will start out with. You can ask for a graduated plan, and you can ask for that to start out supervised. Will you get it? Who knows, in my daughters case she got 1 hour of supervised visitation and from that forward dad did get a graduated plan, but he just comes and picks up the child and drops him off when the time ends. Common amount of time for graduated could be as little as a couple months up to a year. In your case since distance is not a factor, it will probably go quickly. In my daughters case the graduated plan has gone from Sept 2012, until May 2013, but distance is a major factor, dad can only get here once a month.
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Your offering dad standard visitation, 1 week night and EOW. Dad is wanting more of a 50/50. I would have a 50/50 plan ready as the court might go for that, I do still think first they would do some kind of graduated plan. So come up with a 50/50, that has you getting weekends to. The courts usually don't allow all the free time weekends to go to one person. Lots of 50/50, ways to do it. Will dad get 50/50, can't guess, but I would make a plan anyways to take to court, in case the court leans that way.
Editing cause I missed the 2 hours apart. So distance is a bit of a factor, however if the drive is split, that is 1 hour each way for both of you, so the distance is not a huge factor. Weeknights are possible and overnight weeknights are still possible to. Just cause you have baby in your daycare, does not mean a court won't allow dad to find daycare where he would like for an overnight during the week.