ishmalgonzales
Junior Member
SF California
7 years ago when I was still with my ex, we were living near San Jose, CA at a rental home, we had a fight, I came home from work to find our 4 month old baby still in the crib and not changed or fed since I had left for work in that morning and
my girlfriend still in bed. We got into a verbal argument because her actions over the
past few weeks were becoming intolerable. She was angry and sleeping all the time and irresponsible.
The fight escalated when she admited to being on drugs (Meth) we began yelling at eachother and out of anger
she ended up throwing a coffee mug against the wall, right where our
4 month old was laying on a blanket. It was mostly a verbal yelling match and then she became violent.
When she came towards me, she began hitting me and when I pushed her back, she lost her footing and
fell backwards over the coffee table. She became even more infuriated and then said "oh yeah" and
ran into the other room and slammed the door. The next thing I know, cops were at my door arresting me!!
She had called and told them that I had hit her and I was abusing her in front of our baby. Needless to say
I was hauled off to jail for two days...
In court my ex had the nerve to stand up and say that it was all "phony-bologna" and she didn't want charges
pressed against me, that I didn't hit her..etc. However, I was still prosecuted by the DA.Despite the fact
that I was covered in bruises and had a black eye, and the fact that she full on admited to being on Meth...
they lowered my conviction to a misdemeanor domestic violence because I had no prior record and have
never been arrested or been introuble. I went through Anger Management and all of the suggested courses
that they asked me to, I paid my fines in full... etc
I broke up with my ex because of her drug habit and since and to this current date 7 years later, I have
full custody of our daughter. I was working as a builder until I went through nursing school to become a registered nurse
and I am currently licensed
However, I have been told my several companies and potential jobs that I am not hirable because of my
background of "domestic violence." I have sent in petition forms for dismissal about 10 times and all
have been denied for expungement. I'm not entirely certain what to do at this point.
My family and I can no longer afford our apartment or our car because of my unemployment.
I was just wondering if anyone has any advice for me? I was told by the court clerk that it is listed
as Misdemeanor of "domestic battery"... not sure what the difference between domestic violence and battery
is but its been longer than 7 years, I haven't been in trouble since, all the fines and classes
were completed, it's preventing me from getting a job... yet it keeps getting denied for expungement
over and over. I even went to court one day and asked to be seen in person by the judge and they refused
to let me do so.
7 years ago when I was still with my ex, we were living near San Jose, CA at a rental home, we had a fight, I came home from work to find our 4 month old baby still in the crib and not changed or fed since I had left for work in that morning and
my girlfriend still in bed. We got into a verbal argument because her actions over the
past few weeks were becoming intolerable. She was angry and sleeping all the time and irresponsible.
The fight escalated when she admited to being on drugs (Meth) we began yelling at eachother and out of anger
she ended up throwing a coffee mug against the wall, right where our
4 month old was laying on a blanket. It was mostly a verbal yelling match and then she became violent.
When she came towards me, she began hitting me and when I pushed her back, she lost her footing and
fell backwards over the coffee table. She became even more infuriated and then said "oh yeah" and
ran into the other room and slammed the door. The next thing I know, cops were at my door arresting me!!
She had called and told them that I had hit her and I was abusing her in front of our baby. Needless to say
I was hauled off to jail for two days...
In court my ex had the nerve to stand up and say that it was all "phony-bologna" and she didn't want charges
pressed against me, that I didn't hit her..etc. However, I was still prosecuted by the DA.Despite the fact
that I was covered in bruises and had a black eye, and the fact that she full on admited to being on Meth...
they lowered my conviction to a misdemeanor domestic violence because I had no prior record and have
never been arrested or been introuble. I went through Anger Management and all of the suggested courses
that they asked me to, I paid my fines in full... etc
I broke up with my ex because of her drug habit and since and to this current date 7 years later, I have
full custody of our daughter. I was working as a builder until I went through nursing school to become a registered nurse
and I am currently licensed
However, I have been told my several companies and potential jobs that I am not hirable because of my
background of "domestic violence." I have sent in petition forms for dismissal about 10 times and all
have been denied for expungement. I'm not entirely certain what to do at this point.
My family and I can no longer afford our apartment or our car because of my unemployment.
I was just wondering if anyone has any advice for me? I was told by the court clerk that it is listed
as Misdemeanor of "domestic battery"... not sure what the difference between domestic violence and battery
is but its been longer than 7 years, I haven't been in trouble since, all the fines and classes
were completed, it's preventing me from getting a job... yet it keeps getting denied for expungement
over and over. I even went to court one day and asked to be seen in person by the judge and they refused
to let me do so.
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