I had taken my ex-wife back to court in May of 2011 in Ocean County New Jersey to lower my child support payments due to a reduction in my salary, and the fact she make over $100,000.00, and I $48,000.00, which the letter I had from my employer was not accepted by this judge. Furthermore, the judge stated the house on the water, boat, SUV, and camper, that she purchased all in a year time, except for the house, were possibly all gifts. Her husband doesn't even work, but goes to college full time. Well, Not able to afford an attorney, and my ex-wife with financial backing was able to retain counsel. I lost, and the judge refused to ask her for a Case Information Sheet from her, which I had supplied. I was basically told to get out of his court room and to pay her legal fees. Next month, June 2011, I was contacted by my ex-wife who wants to take my kid's on vacation for two weeks in July of 2011. Our legal papers stated that neither of us are allowed to take the children for two consecutive weeks. I had a change of heart, for my issue is with her and not our children,and so I told her to take the kid's, because I love my children. After I had said she can take the kid's, I then receive a letter from her attorney, and it states that if I allow her to take the children on vacation he will allow me to make monthly payments toward his legal fees , and that no order will be issued to force the motion. This vacation issue was after our case, and was never brought up in the courtroom in May. This attorney has threaten me, and my friends are calling it extortion, and I am asking for advise? Thank you.