Yet you do defend them. You defend your personal "scumbag" everytime you allow him to get away with abusing you.
My personal advice to you is NOT to post on DV threads. I have questioned your advice before and have not called you on it. If you cannot post unbiased legal advice, then don't post.
It does NOT matter if OP's bf was cheating on her, it does NOT give her the right to cry abuse. I will repeat that it wastes the time of every person involved, from the "victim" to the judge AND takes away from the people who really need the help.
Nomatter your oppinion, whatever is done has been done, whatever happend between them happend. it actually doesnt matter, any of it, what matters is the OP posted she felt bad, and wanted to correct her mistake, without incriminating herself.
I gave her advise based on my experiance and my oppinion of the justice system and the way it worked for me. My unbiased legal advice is to protect her from further damaging her or his pardicament.
I defend my scumbag because it is obviously my choice to live this way, and if I were a stronger person I would be able to go thru with pressing charges, but to be honest at this point in my relationship, I too would need to make a false complaint, and push thru with it to get the justice I deserve. so whatever.
my advise is both unbiased and ment to give the OP advise the legal profession wont tell her.
I stand by my assumption that if the man was a stand up guy, with honesty and respectability and lived as such, he woulnt be in this pardicament. at all.
You cannot judge, not me, not the OP. you dont really know and neither do I so lets just say this guy was great., he was responcible, he was wonderful, he was the best guy in all creation. Then he simply tried to break up with OP and did so in a sencitive and thoughtfull way. and she was upset (understandably) so she .... scratched her face and pulled her hair and made it look like there was a terrable fight, .. meanwhile the dude is at his regular church meeting la ti da, and BOOM, now he has to defend himself against a craaazy chick. who is mad he doesnt love her.
OK that is a situation where she should recant her statement and appolojise to the court and get her a wonderfull court appointed legal aid to prove her insanity,
If that was not the case, and the relationship was hell and this is how it is over then I have no simpathy for the dude and while I agree it clogs the court system and takes away from women who really could use the intervention, theres nothing she can do about it now.
Whatever what is done is done, and besides NY tenent law and NY criminal law DV law is the one I know best. I will not be defered, I am an advocate for woman weather or not they choose to admit to ongoing abuse. I also strongly believe abuse can be so well hidden even from the abusee that all of free advce . com attacks the victim as a lier and whatnot.
My continued abuse only serves others as I am that much more equiped to recognize the signs and the best corse of action for the desired result.