forthemboys
Junior Member
Hello,
I am in the midst of a custody battle for my boys. I am realling having a problem with "What really matters" I have reviewed months worth of material online in search of the answers.
My marraige of 10 years is over. It was not a good marraige. My wife and I fought constanty about what I percieve as neglect of our children. She just simply was not atentive, caring, nerturing, ect,,,, She neglected their medical needs, as well as their hygene. My children would walk around with their feet hanging out of their shoes.
I blamed her neglect on the fact that she is Bi Polar. It took me 7 years to convience her to see a pyscologist, but when she did she was diagnosed/referred to a pyschirtrist. Sadly she rejected the diagnoses and things only got worse. She ended up being admitted to the pysch ward after nearly overdosing on prescription drugs.
Other things she did during our marraige, include shopliffting, felony theft, being expelled from college for failing a drug test, fired from several jobs. I could go on and on.
Since our seperation she lied to obtain a TPO in order to gain custody of the boys. The cop that was called on the day in question was furious because she lied to the domestic court. He filed a report stating that the account of events she gave the court 2 days later was not the same story she told him. In his initial report he listed me as a victim.
Does any of this matter? I have not had more than a speeding ticket since my first son was born over 10 years ago.
Since the seperation my children have told me even more disturbing things. One of which was an apparent abduction attempt while in the neighborhood unattended. He says mom never spend any time with them unless she takes them on dates with one of her boyfriends. This bothers my oldest son very much. She admitted that smoking pot is her "crutch" to the GAL. They has been wild parties at the house where my boys are staying and on one event a smokebomb was thrown into their bedroom while they were sleeping (both suffer from asthma) Again, I could go on and on.
It saddens me to see what she is doing. It also angers me that as a father I can not protect my boys from what is happening.
She has no job and lives with her mother and 21 year old brother (party monster). The boys stay in the basement. She actually got in a fight with her mom and brother and moved my boys to her sisters basement for about a month before patching things up and moving back.
I have carreer. (my job is raising my boys), the marital home, which if it is lost I will be able to provide another residence.
Any insight would be appreciated. If nothing else, thanks for giving me a place to vent.
I am in the midst of a custody battle for my boys. I am realling having a problem with "What really matters" I have reviewed months worth of material online in search of the answers.
My marraige of 10 years is over. It was not a good marraige. My wife and I fought constanty about what I percieve as neglect of our children. She just simply was not atentive, caring, nerturing, ect,,,, She neglected their medical needs, as well as their hygene. My children would walk around with their feet hanging out of their shoes.
I blamed her neglect on the fact that she is Bi Polar. It took me 7 years to convience her to see a pyscologist, but when she did she was diagnosed/referred to a pyschirtrist. Sadly she rejected the diagnoses and things only got worse. She ended up being admitted to the pysch ward after nearly overdosing on prescription drugs.
Other things she did during our marraige, include shopliffting, felony theft, being expelled from college for failing a drug test, fired from several jobs. I could go on and on.
Since our seperation she lied to obtain a TPO in order to gain custody of the boys. The cop that was called on the day in question was furious because she lied to the domestic court. He filed a report stating that the account of events she gave the court 2 days later was not the same story she told him. In his initial report he listed me as a victim.
Does any of this matter? I have not had more than a speeding ticket since my first son was born over 10 years ago.
Since the seperation my children have told me even more disturbing things. One of which was an apparent abduction attempt while in the neighborhood unattended. He says mom never spend any time with them unless she takes them on dates with one of her boyfriends. This bothers my oldest son very much. She admitted that smoking pot is her "crutch" to the GAL. They has been wild parties at the house where my boys are staying and on one event a smokebomb was thrown into their bedroom while they were sleeping (both suffer from asthma) Again, I could go on and on.
It saddens me to see what she is doing. It also angers me that as a father I can not protect my boys from what is happening.
She has no job and lives with her mother and 21 year old brother (party monster). The boys stay in the basement. She actually got in a fight with her mom and brother and moved my boys to her sisters basement for about a month before patching things up and moving back.
I have carreer. (my job is raising my boys), the marital home, which if it is lost I will be able to provide another residence.
Any insight would be appreciated. If nothing else, thanks for giving me a place to vent.