What is the name of your state? Ohio
Hello All,
I am currently living in Ohio, father is in Texas. Our baby was born on Feb 15th. Father was present for the birth, signed the AOP.
The father has asked me not to file for child support through the state. He says that it would be "embarrassing" to have his employer know that he is paying child support for two different children to two different moms. He has asked that we work out something "between the two of us."
Is there any way a situation like this can work? Thanks to Ohiogal, I did go for the paperwork, and have it all filled out and ready to go - but I want to know if there is any way a situation where the two parents work something out between them and not involve the state and wage garnishment.
If I go file, the father is going to furious. We are on good terms right now, and he will be seeing a lot of the baby. If I file and he freaks out, then I am worried he may not want to come see his son or for me to go to Texas to bring his son to him. I want the dad involved in his son's life.
Just from reading this site, I can foresee several problems. 1. If the dad has a rough financial month, he is not "obligated" to pay, so he may not. If dad decides he wants a new iPhone or car, he could just not pay for his son. 2. Dad could decide that I'm not using the money "directly" for his son, so I don't need so much. He can basically hold money over our heads, or try to make me show him receipts. 3. If dad gets ANOTHER girl pregnant and has support taken, we may just be out of luck. It would not be surprising in the least if dad got someone else pregnant, as that is what led to the end of our relationship. I just want to facilitate a relationship between father and son.
So, to file or not to file? Has anyone ever seen this work before? Or would I be an idiot to even try to make this work? Pros? Cons?
Thank you for any advice.
Hello All,
I am currently living in Ohio, father is in Texas. Our baby was born on Feb 15th. Father was present for the birth, signed the AOP.
The father has asked me not to file for child support through the state. He says that it would be "embarrassing" to have his employer know that he is paying child support for two different children to two different moms. He has asked that we work out something "between the two of us."
Is there any way a situation like this can work? Thanks to Ohiogal, I did go for the paperwork, and have it all filled out and ready to go - but I want to know if there is any way a situation where the two parents work something out between them and not involve the state and wage garnishment.
If I go file, the father is going to furious. We are on good terms right now, and he will be seeing a lot of the baby. If I file and he freaks out, then I am worried he may not want to come see his son or for me to go to Texas to bring his son to him. I want the dad involved in his son's life.
Just from reading this site, I can foresee several problems. 1. If the dad has a rough financial month, he is not "obligated" to pay, so he may not. If dad decides he wants a new iPhone or car, he could just not pay for his son. 2. Dad could decide that I'm not using the money "directly" for his son, so I don't need so much. He can basically hold money over our heads, or try to make me show him receipts. 3. If dad gets ANOTHER girl pregnant and has support taken, we may just be out of luck. It would not be surprising in the least if dad got someone else pregnant, as that is what led to the end of our relationship. I just want to facilitate a relationship between father and son.
So, to file or not to file? Has anyone ever seen this work before? Or would I be an idiot to even try to make this work? Pros? Cons?
Thank you for any advice.