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CALIFORNIA. Here's a difficult one. My husband of 8 years had a 2 year long affair. At the end of the relationship we found out that his affair partner was pregnant. My husband and I have 5 children of our own. We made the decision to try and work things out. I am willing to help raise his child with him. PROBLEM: the affair partner thinks that their son together belongs only to her, after all he came out of her body...My husband has been patient with the maternal "bonding" etc. and now would like to be able to spend more time with his son (at least 50 percent). (He is now 9 months old). The mother divorced her husband to be with mine, and the trap didn't work out...now she is bitter and doesn't think the child should be around me. She holds money over my husband's head. He really doesn't want to go to court and would like to settle this with a stipulation. I am a mother myself and understand the connection and love that you develop for a child, but in this circumstance I do not feel that it is right for her to decide when and where and how our family may see this child. He has a father who loves him and wants to be involved in his life. It takes two to make the baby, it should take two to raise him. Unfortunately/Fortunately, in this case there will be three. Are there laws that protect my husband's rights? Court battles that argue back and forth seem counterproductive. Is there any logic that we can present to the mother?
I am not some psycho woman, please no nasty comments about my husband or myself. We are an all American family with excellent education, executive careers, income and morals--this situation is a mistake that we are going to have to live with forever. BUT, children are never a mistake. We want to make the best of a pretty horrible situation. Any advice on how we can handle it or sample custody arrangements would be welcomed.
I am not some psycho woman, please no nasty comments about my husband or myself. We are an all American family with excellent education, executive careers, income and morals--this situation is a mistake that we are going to have to live with forever. BUT, children are never a mistake. We want to make the best of a pretty horrible situation. Any advice on how we can handle it or sample custody arrangements would be welcomed.