What is the name of your state? Virginia
Hi all,
I posted load of info on my friend’s case. On impulse, pulled the thread because I was concerned about how specific I was getting about a case I’m not a party to… with dates of my posts matching every event. I guess pulling the thread and now posting again is a major forum foul and yet here I go. I did save my first two posts and recapped the rest.
The father in this case has been awarded full legal and physical custody.
Mom has been found to be Bipolar for year and recently diagnosed as Borderline. She has on several occasions accused the father of molesting the children. One accusation was so specific that it would have to have left serious physical evidence, of course there was none. CPS investigators found evidence of “coaching” stating that the child was very articulate and could give details about a lot things in her life, but couldn’t remember what she was “supposed to say” as taught to her. The child even asked he mother during the interview about what should she say. The mother personally examined the girls as well and taped it to turn in as evidence. Of course, this was viewed as her abusing the girls.
During previous allegations CPS recommended they enter an emergency placement as her behavior and probing was harmful. She was performing vaginal and rectal exams while coaching them. The father thought going with strangers would be as traumatic as staying with the mother. In the end, CPS GAL etc. thought mom would be running so high from the perception of “winning” that the visit wouldn’t be so bad after all. That visit went badly as it included a rape kit at the hospital.
Mother lost custody and was give EOW plus some holidays, a couple of summer weeks etc. She played “nice for 6 months after that, but when her nominal child support payments began, she decided to rehash sexual accusations. It turns out that the mother violated the court orders several ways.
- brought the children to CPS for 2 visits
- Constantly talking about her very graphic accusations with the preschoolers. Even waited in the CPS parking lot for an hour to tell the CPS worker MORE allegations.
- tried to dodge the GAL and the CPS worker specifically mentioned in the custody order
- Contacted the police to discuss accusations in front of the children at least twice
- Took the children to a therapist to discuss the accusation
- Several contacts against court order & failure to return the children on time
- Lost her visitation at the GALs discretion but managed to “snatch” them anyway with the aide of police. Yep, like a dummy Dad was home
Because of all this, a no-contact order was placed on mother and an additional restraining order was put into affect to give the father discretionary right regarding visitation. Its been a month, He is going for supervised visitation. Obviously, at a professional facility would be best.
However, mom is super-involved with her church and 5-6 members showed up at the emergency hearing. The pastor remained in the courtroom and was able to hear everything so at least he knows what mom has been up to. If the church members offer to supervise visitation, how likely is it that it will be granted? They are nice folk, and do mean well, but this won’t work out. The definition of supervised may be fuzzy to a non-professional. It would be difficult to “enforce” supervised when mom is uncooperative. It will be difficult for friends to report when there is a problem out of loyalty. Mother is manipulative and will have some sort of convincing sob story about not wanting to go to jail… how poor she is and how she can’t afford paying for supervised (she has arrears)… How she’s the abused one…
Is there any thing dad should do to solidify why it must be at a facility for now? I looked up Supervised visitation and have good info, but VA has no guidelines and the judge shot down supervised before because it wasn’t feasible.
Hi all,
I posted load of info on my friend’s case. On impulse, pulled the thread because I was concerned about how specific I was getting about a case I’m not a party to… with dates of my posts matching every event. I guess pulling the thread and now posting again is a major forum foul and yet here I go. I did save my first two posts and recapped the rest.
The father in this case has been awarded full legal and physical custody.
Mom has been found to be Bipolar for year and recently diagnosed as Borderline. She has on several occasions accused the father of molesting the children. One accusation was so specific that it would have to have left serious physical evidence, of course there was none. CPS investigators found evidence of “coaching” stating that the child was very articulate and could give details about a lot things in her life, but couldn’t remember what she was “supposed to say” as taught to her. The child even asked he mother during the interview about what should she say. The mother personally examined the girls as well and taped it to turn in as evidence. Of course, this was viewed as her abusing the girls.
During previous allegations CPS recommended they enter an emergency placement as her behavior and probing was harmful. She was performing vaginal and rectal exams while coaching them. The father thought going with strangers would be as traumatic as staying with the mother. In the end, CPS GAL etc. thought mom would be running so high from the perception of “winning” that the visit wouldn’t be so bad after all. That visit went badly as it included a rape kit at the hospital.
Mother lost custody and was give EOW plus some holidays, a couple of summer weeks etc. She played “nice for 6 months after that, but when her nominal child support payments began, she decided to rehash sexual accusations. It turns out that the mother violated the court orders several ways.
- brought the children to CPS for 2 visits
- Constantly talking about her very graphic accusations with the preschoolers. Even waited in the CPS parking lot for an hour to tell the CPS worker MORE allegations.
- tried to dodge the GAL and the CPS worker specifically mentioned in the custody order
- Contacted the police to discuss accusations in front of the children at least twice
- Took the children to a therapist to discuss the accusation
- Several contacts against court order & failure to return the children on time
- Lost her visitation at the GALs discretion but managed to “snatch” them anyway with the aide of police. Yep, like a dummy Dad was home
Because of all this, a no-contact order was placed on mother and an additional restraining order was put into affect to give the father discretionary right regarding visitation. Its been a month, He is going for supervised visitation. Obviously, at a professional facility would be best.
However, mom is super-involved with her church and 5-6 members showed up at the emergency hearing. The pastor remained in the courtroom and was able to hear everything so at least he knows what mom has been up to. If the church members offer to supervise visitation, how likely is it that it will be granted? They are nice folk, and do mean well, but this won’t work out. The definition of supervised may be fuzzy to a non-professional. It would be difficult to “enforce” supervised when mom is uncooperative. It will be difficult for friends to report when there is a problem out of loyalty. Mother is manipulative and will have some sort of convincing sob story about not wanting to go to jail… how poor she is and how she can’t afford paying for supervised (she has arrears)… How she’s the abused one…
Is there any thing dad should do to solidify why it must be at a facility for now? I looked up Supervised visitation and have good info, but VA has no guidelines and the judge shot down supervised before because it wasn’t feasible.