kimberlywrites
Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TX
The 50-50 parenting was going great until his remarriage. Up until then, he completely took on whatever needed to be done during his week: Extracurricular activities, doctor appointments, sick days, everything. We helped each other out when necessary. It was very amicable.
He's been remarried a couple of years and has a 1-year-old baby. Since the baby came his wife has not allowed him to take the kids to their extracurricular activities. It's not a lot: son has soccer practice once a week, daughter has dance class once a week. The wife says it's not fair to leave her at home with the baby while he's running around doing things for his other two kids.
When it started to become an issue, I took the kids to their activities during his week. He said it was 'growing pains' of a new blended family and would work itself out.
Well it hasn't, and my daughter is now involved in a couple more school activities – choir and Destination Imagination. For awhile she was involved in her church's drama club and had roles in their twice-a-year musicals. The church, btw, is the church dad and his wife attend. He signed her up for the drama club. I was the one who took her to weekly rehearsals since he was not allowed to.
I'm starting to feel I'm being taken advantage of. He's got the pleasure of 50-50 parenting, but none of the responsibility. He says he wants to work it out, but that he can't. I feel he either needs to assume the responsibilities of 50-50 during his week, or become the NCP, receive standard possession as per Texas custody law, and pay me child support. He's got it both ways right now. No child support, no responsibilities, half-time with the kids.
I've addressed the issue with him several times, and also with his wife. She told me not to threaten her with lawyers. She said that when the kids are with them, they are HER kids. But her actions don't back those words.
I'm done threatening. I'm ready to take action. Do I have enough of a reason to request modification or to enforce the current custody plan? These are all activities the ex has agreed to, btw. I don't put them in anything without his agreement.
The 50-50 parenting was going great until his remarriage. Up until then, he completely took on whatever needed to be done during his week: Extracurricular activities, doctor appointments, sick days, everything. We helped each other out when necessary. It was very amicable.
He's been remarried a couple of years and has a 1-year-old baby. Since the baby came his wife has not allowed him to take the kids to their extracurricular activities. It's not a lot: son has soccer practice once a week, daughter has dance class once a week. The wife says it's not fair to leave her at home with the baby while he's running around doing things for his other two kids.
When it started to become an issue, I took the kids to their activities during his week. He said it was 'growing pains' of a new blended family and would work itself out.
Well it hasn't, and my daughter is now involved in a couple more school activities – choir and Destination Imagination. For awhile she was involved in her church's drama club and had roles in their twice-a-year musicals. The church, btw, is the church dad and his wife attend. He signed her up for the drama club. I was the one who took her to weekly rehearsals since he was not allowed to.
I'm starting to feel I'm being taken advantage of. He's got the pleasure of 50-50 parenting, but none of the responsibility. He says he wants to work it out, but that he can't. I feel he either needs to assume the responsibilities of 50-50 during his week, or become the NCP, receive standard possession as per Texas custody law, and pay me child support. He's got it both ways right now. No child support, no responsibilities, half-time with the kids.
I've addressed the issue with him several times, and also with his wife. She told me not to threaten her with lawyers. She said that when the kids are with them, they are HER kids. But her actions don't back those words.
I'm done threatening. I'm ready to take action. Do I have enough of a reason to request modification or to enforce the current custody plan? These are all activities the ex has agreed to, btw. I don't put them in anything without his agreement.
