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stillinlove
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What is the name of your state? Oregon
1. In Clackamas County, I believe it is possible under certain circumstances for a judge to order Marriage Counseling to a married couple (even if they haven't any minor children between them, and only 1 child - my son from a prior marriage - living in the home part-time, who was not listed on the petition) pending his granting a divorce. Is that true? If so, how would I request such an order from the court when I file my "Response" to the petition I was served just last week? (More info in para. 3)
2. The petition has numerous inaccuracies and flat out lies on it, such as: He is showing the wrong address of residence for himself. (I need to know what to do to get sufficient proof/evidence that he has been living with his "girlfriend" and her children for the past 6 months.) He (the Petitioner) is asking to be served through the mail at the incorrect address (his parent's apartment) and I would prefer to have him served personally at his g/f's house and use the Proof of Service as evidence. Can I do that?
3. I don't want a divorce, but this is a "No Fault" state. The woman he is living with is a controlling, manipulative type, and because a.) He is normally the shy, quiet type who avoids conflict at any cost, and b.) She has made communications between my spouse & I nearly impossible, and has actually changed his personality into someone I neither recognize nor like any more. He once agreed to attend a marriage councelor with me, then moved in with her and never followed through. I have documents that prove that 10 days after he left our home "to figure out what [he] wanted" (after being together for over 5-1/2 years without any serious disagreements until the last month), he suddenly couldn't remember the color of my eyes, or the date we met, or our wedding anniversary date. He even has the wrong wedding date written on the petition, yet our anniversary was only one month to the day before he moved out very suddenly and without explanation. He even gave me a card! How could he use the wrong date and within 10 days forget the color of his own wife's eyes!!, unless he developed a sudden case of amnesia or some mental problem has destroyed his memory? Perhaps alien's have stolen his brain
Any suggestions on how I can use these things to get him into counseling and buy lots of time? Even if we end up divorced, I honestly believe he needs to get some professional help and get his personality and memory back to normal. She will get tired of him sponging off of her, or he will get sick of her temper tantrums and the screaming kids, etc. I know he will be looking for a way out soon, hopefully I can get him into counseling before he burns the bridge down on the path that leads back home! Please help, I can't afford an attorney. He doesn't have one, either, but I am intelligent enough to understand more than the average person, so I am comfortable dealing with this without representation if pointed in the right direction.
Thank You,
stillinlove
1. In Clackamas County, I believe it is possible under certain circumstances for a judge to order Marriage Counseling to a married couple (even if they haven't any minor children between them, and only 1 child - my son from a prior marriage - living in the home part-time, who was not listed on the petition) pending his granting a divorce. Is that true? If so, how would I request such an order from the court when I file my "Response" to the petition I was served just last week? (More info in para. 3)
2. The petition has numerous inaccuracies and flat out lies on it, such as: He is showing the wrong address of residence for himself. (I need to know what to do to get sufficient proof/evidence that he has been living with his "girlfriend" and her children for the past 6 months.) He (the Petitioner) is asking to be served through the mail at the incorrect address (his parent's apartment) and I would prefer to have him served personally at his g/f's house and use the Proof of Service as evidence. Can I do that?
3. I don't want a divorce, but this is a "No Fault" state. The woman he is living with is a controlling, manipulative type, and because a.) He is normally the shy, quiet type who avoids conflict at any cost, and b.) She has made communications between my spouse & I nearly impossible, and has actually changed his personality into someone I neither recognize nor like any more. He once agreed to attend a marriage councelor with me, then moved in with her and never followed through. I have documents that prove that 10 days after he left our home "to figure out what [he] wanted" (after being together for over 5-1/2 years without any serious disagreements until the last month), he suddenly couldn't remember the color of my eyes, or the date we met, or our wedding anniversary date. He even has the wrong wedding date written on the petition, yet our anniversary was only one month to the day before he moved out very suddenly and without explanation. He even gave me a card! How could he use the wrong date and within 10 days forget the color of his own wife's eyes!!, unless he developed a sudden case of amnesia or some mental problem has destroyed his memory? Perhaps alien's have stolen his brain
Any suggestions on how I can use these things to get him into counseling and buy lots of time? Even if we end up divorced, I honestly believe he needs to get some professional help and get his personality and memory back to normal. She will get tired of him sponging off of her, or he will get sick of her temper tantrums and the screaming kids, etc. I know he will be looking for a way out soon, hopefully I can get him into counseling before he burns the bridge down on the path that leads back home! Please help, I can't afford an attorney. He doesn't have one, either, but I am intelligent enough to understand more than the average person, so I am comfortable dealing with this without representation if pointed in the right direction.
Thank You,
stillinlove
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