You know what else is against the law in my state?
Nonpayment of child support.
Domestic violence (battery), and interruption of public services.
The above is what my ex was charged with. Yet I am the bad guy here, because I provide R stability??
I don't have a "halo". I will own my mistakes. One of which was choosing R's dad. I love my R and I am so thankful I have him, but his dad is a loser, plain and simple. 22 year old me can see what 18 year old me could not. And perhaps, that sometimes leaks through in my dealings with him. But I am working very hard with a counselor to attempt to address this as I know it is poisonous to my R to see contention between his dad and I.
But I cannot see how my ex's being at appointments is good for R for the same reason. He is contentious. When he makes wild allegations at the doctor's that is bad for R. When I tell the doctor something and he yells at me saying I'm a liar in front of R, that is not good for R. When R is crying Mommy, mommy and his father will not even let me hug him goodbye, that is terrible for my R!!!
My salary seems hefty to me as I used to be toiling away at minimum wage to support my son because his dad never paid for a damn thing and still has yet to for our son. It's crazy to me that I make so much more now. And yeah I'm pretty proud of the fact I make that, because I did it all by myself, no help from my son's dad. Sorry if that bothers you!
I am not being dishonest. I have reported everything as required, and why would I request a modification? If anything I think his support might go up even if I did do that, because childcare cost has tripled with my move to a new area (CLOSER to R's father by the way) and different childcare needs, and as it stands he is to pay 69% of childcare expenses as well. That percentage I am told is based on how much time is spent with the child and who bears most financial responsibility.