There is already animosity between us - there always has been since the divorce. That has never changed. I can't see it changing at all. I have tried, but he won't. He moved, he drives. He moved further away, he drives further. It is not my fault that he puts more priority on his new wife and her daughter, moving close to be with them, than his 2 kids that live here. He chose to make that distance, he needs to deal with it. The judge even told him that it was in the best interest of the kids if he did not live so far away. I need to end him putting the kids in the middle between us...it appears that the only way I can do that is by dragging all this through court again. If it's a waste of the courts time, that is something that he created, and will keep creating. I need to be able to stop it. And going to court is the only way to stop it.
NO it NOT. Oh dear.
did you ever think that if YOU took the high road, and just acted like you really didn't care what he did, he might stop? Sure if he is as immature as you claim it might escalate for a while, bu ttake pride in knowing you can only piss someone off in these situations if THEY are unhappy. Prove to your ex how HAPPY you are he is gone, and LAUGH it off.
maybe you need to STOP focusing on his new wife and daughter and start focusing on YOU.
you are not defined anymore by him, he is gone from YOUR life. just let him be the dad he is going to be with his kids. So he moved far away thats HIS loss. It does not have to be your kids. Encourage the relationship, stand back from it. its no longer your relationship.
Stop thinking the court is there to fight your little battles, it not. you are letting 120 bucks a month get in the way of true happiness for you and the kids. you know there are women in this world who never get a dime of support ordered, and kids who wonder why daddy NEVER comes to see them. Count the good throw out the bad...
Once you let go, you won't care what this guy does, because YOU are Happy.
And thats Haiku's long winded NON LEGAL speech on the subject.