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I know this is terribly long, but...
Until Friday, my husband, three children (7, 9, & 11 yr old sons), and I were living in our home. My husband and I had been having problems for a few months, but (I thought) were working on things. I was paying for marriage counseling which we were both attending.
On Friday while I was working, my husband went to the movies with my dad and kids. They all went back to my house. Late that night, my husband texted me that he was going to go stay with his mom about 20 miles away. He left the kids with my dad at my house. I was home with the boys all weekend. My husband agreed that he would continue to take the kids to and from the bus stops as he doesn't work, and I work full-time.
On Monday, I was served with court papers as soon as I got home. The order states that there was an ex parte hearing. My husband was given temporary custody of the kids. I am allowed to have visitation but am not allowed to bring them to our home. He is living with his mom which is adding an extra 20 miles each way to the kids' school commute.
According to the complaint, my husband stated that my house was filthy, filled with animals, and uninhabitable. My husband says that he has an injured back and is unable to clean and that I refused to clean. Obviously, to say that I refused to clean is a total lie. I have numerous pics of the house taken at different times over the years that prove it was clean. Apparently, as disgusting as this sounds, he literally went outside, picked up dog poop, brought it into my home and took pictures of it. These pictures where what the judge was shown with the statement that animal feces was allowed to lay around in the home. Although we are house breaking a puppy and have the occasional accident, there is no regular accumulation of animal feces. Also, I work 40+ hrs a week. My husband is home 24/7. At what point does cleaning the home become only my responsibility? I would imagine that if I leave the home to go to work at 7: 30 am, and the dog poops on the floor anytime between then and 5:30 pm when I get home it would be my husband's responsibility to clean it up.
My husband said his back was injured leaving him unable to clean. It was in 09/2005 that he injured his back. However, I have photos of him doing things such as golfing, bowling, playing, etc, and have witnesses of these things and more including him digging a culvert ditch in front of our home. These things were all done after the injury.
Another complaint was that I was hoarding animals. He listed the animals. Admittedly, we had too many pets. However, he listed them all as mine and listed ones that weren't even in the home on the date he signed the affidavit. He listed 3 ball pythons that were his and that he had actually asked me to give away last week. The snakes were picked up on Saturday. He listed 2 parakeets that were his daughter's (she visited on the wkends) which he had taken to his mom's on Friday. He also listed dogs that were his. He failed to mention that he had brought another dog into the home just this February. I had insisted that the dog be given away and found a home for it within 2 or 3 days. He listed 4 ferrets which I was in the process of finding homes for. I had listed them in several classified ads beginning in January. I had sold one of them on Saturday. The other 3 were supposed to be picked up on Monday but didn't get picked up until yesterday. He told my boys that the reason he left and took them was because the Easter Bunny brought them 3 bunnies. I gave them to my stepdaughter yesterday. My boys are in hysterics because their bunnies are gone.
On Monday, after being served, my sister was able to get my husband on the phone. He did speak with me but wouldn't really say why he had done what he had done. I convinced him to let me see the boys. He met me in a church parking lot and let me see them for a few minutes. The boys and I were crying. I was reassuring them that it would be okay and that everyone loved them. My husband threatened that if they didn't quit crying, he would not allow them to see me again. My 9 yr old son has Asperger's Syndrome. My son began vomiting everywhere in the parking lot. My husband was yelling at him and made all the kids get in the car and left.
My kids share a cell-phone. I was texting my oldest son about normal stuff - not instigating or causing problems. Yesterday morning, my husband allowed the kids to call me before school. After talking to them, I texted my oldest son some more. This is just a normal thing that we've always done when he's on the bus. Later, I got my husband to allow me to meet him and the kids at a local restaurant so I could buy the kids dinner. My husband sat a few tables away but would come over and try to start a fight. Eventually, he started shoving a paper in my face. The kids and I told him to stop but he wouldn't. Unfortunately, I made the mistake of grabbing the paper and tearing it up. I know that was stupid but he was shoving it in my face and wouldn't leave me alone. At that point, he tried to make the kids leave. They wouldn't get up. He said he would call the police. They said they wanted to eat their dinner. He walked away and allowed them to eat. When we were done, I told the kids they had to go with my husband and that I would see them at t-ball practice in a few minutes. I started down the road to practice and saw that my husband wasn't going that way. I called my son's cell and asked him where they were. Before he could answer, my husband started yelling. I could hear them fighting over the phone. My husband took the phone and hung up. Then, I called his cell. He said he wasn't going to practice because he had other things to do. So I went home. My husband then called me and said he went to practice. At that time, it was too late for me to get there before it was over. Later that night, I tried calling to talk to my kids. My husband took their cell and turned it off. I texted asking to let me speak to them. He texted saying they would call. I asked if they could call right away (it was 8 pm) because I had gotten only an hr of sleep the night before and was exhuasted. He did not let them call until 9:02 pm. The kids' bedtime has always been 9 pm.
This morning, he allowed the kids to call me before school. He still will not return their cell to them. He asked me to meet him at Kroger to give him my youngest son's coat (my son had not had a coat, his glasses, or his school folder since he had been with my husband). I met him on my way to work and saw that he is driving a brand new van that was purchased within the last two days.
I told my husband that I would pick the kids up from the bus stop at 4 today for my weekday visitation. He would not agree to that. He just said "we'll see." I have a feeling he isn't going to allow me to get them this evening.
I do have an attorney. I have several witnesses who will testify to various things. Even my husband's two ex-wives are ready to testyify for me.
I guess since I have an attorney already, I'm not necessarily asking for legal advice right now but just regular advice. The attorney says be patient and wait until our hearing Monday. That is easy for him to say. How am I supposed to live my life right now? How am I supposed to deal with this right now? How am I supposed to do my very chaotic job as well as I'm supposed to?
I know this is terribly long, but...
Until Friday, my husband, three children (7, 9, & 11 yr old sons), and I were living in our home. My husband and I had been having problems for a few months, but (I thought) were working on things. I was paying for marriage counseling which we were both attending.
On Friday while I was working, my husband went to the movies with my dad and kids. They all went back to my house. Late that night, my husband texted me that he was going to go stay with his mom about 20 miles away. He left the kids with my dad at my house. I was home with the boys all weekend. My husband agreed that he would continue to take the kids to and from the bus stops as he doesn't work, and I work full-time.
On Monday, I was served with court papers as soon as I got home. The order states that there was an ex parte hearing. My husband was given temporary custody of the kids. I am allowed to have visitation but am not allowed to bring them to our home. He is living with his mom which is adding an extra 20 miles each way to the kids' school commute.
According to the complaint, my husband stated that my house was filthy, filled with animals, and uninhabitable. My husband says that he has an injured back and is unable to clean and that I refused to clean. Obviously, to say that I refused to clean is a total lie. I have numerous pics of the house taken at different times over the years that prove it was clean. Apparently, as disgusting as this sounds, he literally went outside, picked up dog poop, brought it into my home and took pictures of it. These pictures where what the judge was shown with the statement that animal feces was allowed to lay around in the home. Although we are house breaking a puppy and have the occasional accident, there is no regular accumulation of animal feces. Also, I work 40+ hrs a week. My husband is home 24/7. At what point does cleaning the home become only my responsibility? I would imagine that if I leave the home to go to work at 7: 30 am, and the dog poops on the floor anytime between then and 5:30 pm when I get home it would be my husband's responsibility to clean it up.
My husband said his back was injured leaving him unable to clean. It was in 09/2005 that he injured his back. However, I have photos of him doing things such as golfing, bowling, playing, etc, and have witnesses of these things and more including him digging a culvert ditch in front of our home. These things were all done after the injury.
Another complaint was that I was hoarding animals. He listed the animals. Admittedly, we had too many pets. However, he listed them all as mine and listed ones that weren't even in the home on the date he signed the affidavit. He listed 3 ball pythons that were his and that he had actually asked me to give away last week. The snakes were picked up on Saturday. He listed 2 parakeets that were his daughter's (she visited on the wkends) which he had taken to his mom's on Friday. He also listed dogs that were his. He failed to mention that he had brought another dog into the home just this February. I had insisted that the dog be given away and found a home for it within 2 or 3 days. He listed 4 ferrets which I was in the process of finding homes for. I had listed them in several classified ads beginning in January. I had sold one of them on Saturday. The other 3 were supposed to be picked up on Monday but didn't get picked up until yesterday. He told my boys that the reason he left and took them was because the Easter Bunny brought them 3 bunnies. I gave them to my stepdaughter yesterday. My boys are in hysterics because their bunnies are gone.
On Monday, after being served, my sister was able to get my husband on the phone. He did speak with me but wouldn't really say why he had done what he had done. I convinced him to let me see the boys. He met me in a church parking lot and let me see them for a few minutes. The boys and I were crying. I was reassuring them that it would be okay and that everyone loved them. My husband threatened that if they didn't quit crying, he would not allow them to see me again. My 9 yr old son has Asperger's Syndrome. My son began vomiting everywhere in the parking lot. My husband was yelling at him and made all the kids get in the car and left.
My kids share a cell-phone. I was texting my oldest son about normal stuff - not instigating or causing problems. Yesterday morning, my husband allowed the kids to call me before school. After talking to them, I texted my oldest son some more. This is just a normal thing that we've always done when he's on the bus. Later, I got my husband to allow me to meet him and the kids at a local restaurant so I could buy the kids dinner. My husband sat a few tables away but would come over and try to start a fight. Eventually, he started shoving a paper in my face. The kids and I told him to stop but he wouldn't. Unfortunately, I made the mistake of grabbing the paper and tearing it up. I know that was stupid but he was shoving it in my face and wouldn't leave me alone. At that point, he tried to make the kids leave. They wouldn't get up. He said he would call the police. They said they wanted to eat their dinner. He walked away and allowed them to eat. When we were done, I told the kids they had to go with my husband and that I would see them at t-ball practice in a few minutes. I started down the road to practice and saw that my husband wasn't going that way. I called my son's cell and asked him where they were. Before he could answer, my husband started yelling. I could hear them fighting over the phone. My husband took the phone and hung up. Then, I called his cell. He said he wasn't going to practice because he had other things to do. So I went home. My husband then called me and said he went to practice. At that time, it was too late for me to get there before it was over. Later that night, I tried calling to talk to my kids. My husband took their cell and turned it off. I texted asking to let me speak to them. He texted saying they would call. I asked if they could call right away (it was 8 pm) because I had gotten only an hr of sleep the night before and was exhuasted. He did not let them call until 9:02 pm. The kids' bedtime has always been 9 pm.
This morning, he allowed the kids to call me before school. He still will not return their cell to them. He asked me to meet him at Kroger to give him my youngest son's coat (my son had not had a coat, his glasses, or his school folder since he had been with my husband). I met him on my way to work and saw that he is driving a brand new van that was purchased within the last two days.
I told my husband that I would pick the kids up from the bus stop at 4 today for my weekday visitation. He would not agree to that. He just said "we'll see." I have a feeling he isn't going to allow me to get them this evening.
I do have an attorney. I have several witnesses who will testify to various things. Even my husband's two ex-wives are ready to testyify for me.
I guess since I have an attorney already, I'm not necessarily asking for legal advice right now but just regular advice. The attorney says be patient and wait until our hearing Monday. That is easy for him to say. How am I supposed to live my life right now? How am I supposed to deal with this right now? How am I supposed to do my very chaotic job as well as I'm supposed to?
