What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ
I know that this is going to be open season on me and I know all the "typical" answers, but I am at an impass.
Those of you that have seen my other post know that my kdis have a very interesting step mom. I am getting tired of hearing my 7 and 9 year old say they are bad boys. Tired of them crying to me about going to dad's because dad isn't home and step mom is only. I am so sick of my ex's new wife destroying the relationship that he has with our kids to the point of my kids seriously kicking and screaming when I drop them off.
Dad finally did something that I never thought he would do and called me to come get them on his time. (a first in 4 years). My kids are getting older and more vocal and are starting to speak their minds at their dads house (another first). My heart is breaking because their dad seems to put many other things before our children (mainly his new family) and tells them that they don't have a choice. (Mind you I do somewhat agree, but they are so miserable to the point of waking up and sneaking the phone to call me at 1230 am since they are not permited to talk to me during waking hours).
I don't want my children to hate their dad and ALWAYS encourage time with dad, but it seems latley that they have had it. The psychologist told me point blank the other day that it may be in my best interest to change the parenting time so that the kids only are with Dad when he is home. She was cryptic, but it worried me on so many different levels.
We changed the parenting time 1.5 years ago and it seems a little early to go to court to change it again and Dad will not have it regardless of reasoning since his new wife is furious that "they" have to pay 187 a month in child support for three kids. She actually told me the other day in email that I could be expecting a new order to modify time so they could have them more since they should not have to pay me anything.
I am so frustrated and fed up with this and don't want to have to go back to court yet again. I almost wish they would attempt to modify then I wouldn't be the one pushing the envelope.
AHHHH sick of my hands being tied and trying to always do the right thing in a loosing battle. Any advice will be helpful even if to just ease my mind.
I know that this is going to be open season on me and I know all the "typical" answers, but I am at an impass.
Those of you that have seen my other post know that my kdis have a very interesting step mom. I am getting tired of hearing my 7 and 9 year old say they are bad boys. Tired of them crying to me about going to dad's because dad isn't home and step mom is only. I am so sick of my ex's new wife destroying the relationship that he has with our kids to the point of my kids seriously kicking and screaming when I drop them off.
Dad finally did something that I never thought he would do and called me to come get them on his time. (a first in 4 years). My kids are getting older and more vocal and are starting to speak their minds at their dads house (another first). My heart is breaking because their dad seems to put many other things before our children (mainly his new family) and tells them that they don't have a choice. (Mind you I do somewhat agree, but they are so miserable to the point of waking up and sneaking the phone to call me at 1230 am since they are not permited to talk to me during waking hours).
I don't want my children to hate their dad and ALWAYS encourage time with dad, but it seems latley that they have had it. The psychologist told me point blank the other day that it may be in my best interest to change the parenting time so that the kids only are with Dad when he is home. She was cryptic, but it worried me on so many different levels.
We changed the parenting time 1.5 years ago and it seems a little early to go to court to change it again and Dad will not have it regardless of reasoning since his new wife is furious that "they" have to pay 187 a month in child support for three kids. She actually told me the other day in email that I could be expecting a new order to modify time so they could have them more since they should not have to pay me anything.
I am so frustrated and fed up with this and don't want to have to go back to court yet again. I almost wish they would attempt to modify then I wouldn't be the one pushing the envelope.
AHHHH sick of my hands being tied and trying to always do the right thing in a loosing battle. Any advice will be helpful even if to just ease my mind.