What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Washington State
Here is my situation as it stands.
My g/f and i had a baby together and when she was 3 1/2 months old my g/f left me and took the baby wih her. 3 days later she filed for a TPO claiming DV. we went to court 2 weeks later TPO was granted for 1 year. The judge ordered me 2 visits per week SUPERVISED at anger center. 30 minutes per visit $25 per visit to me. I was also ordered to take a 8 week anger class,judge set up review hearing in 8 weeks to see how things were. 8 weeks later i finished class went back to court got 2 days a week 1hr each at my house then in 2 months they go to 2 hrs per visit. i just got my name on BC and now wanna come up with a shared parenting plan. The ex hates me and doesnt want me to spend time with daughter due to previous DV and the fact that she wants full custody ( or so i assume) she hasnt actually taken me to court asking for full custody .
I just recieved a letter in the mail (The day after i got my name on BC) stating she is asking for child support (wich i have no problem with i helped make our daughter i wanna help pay for her as well. i also think its in her best interest to spend equal amount of timer with me her father. I want an equal opportunity to raise my daughter as i love her very much and want to be a FATHER to her not just the guy who got her mom pregnant. Since the judge 1st ordered 2 days at 30 minutes each visit supervised hen raised it to 2 days 1hr visits at my house supervised by my mother then is gonna raise is to 2 days 2 hrs at my house starting in april (so the pattern as you can see is my time doubles every 2 months) is that a good sign the judge is on my side at all? or is this just common? Also i wanted to add that when we last went to court my ex asked the judge for the visits to go from 2 30 minute visits per week to 1 visit per week for 1 hour and they stay supervised at the place i was doing the supervised visits at. The judge told my ex that 1 visit per week isnt enough contact for my daughter and myself. I have also enrolled in a Parenting Class at the same place i took my anger management courses and the court is aware that i took it upon myself to enroll in that class
1 more thing i wanna add when my ex drops our daughter off for my visits she parks next door and sits in her car for the entire hour i have my visit should i bring that up to the judge or not? its very uncomfortable when i get so little time with our daughter and the ex instead of finding something to do for that hour she feels the need to spy on my visits.
I must add my ex and our daughter live with her parents in like a 4 bedroom house with 11 total people so our daughter doesnt have her own room, where at my house she would be able to have a room of her own.
Our daughter is 6 months old by the way
So my question to everyone here is what amount of time should i ask for in the parenting plan and what time should i expect to get? i really would like 50/50 shared physical and legal custody. I think it would be in our daughters best interest to spend 50% of her time with me. i can provide our daughter with what she needs in food,clothes,diapers, etc etc etc. i make twice what my ex makes.
Im doing this all alone as i cant afford a lawyer so any advice on my situation would be greatly appreciated
Here is my situation as it stands.
My g/f and i had a baby together and when she was 3 1/2 months old my g/f left me and took the baby wih her. 3 days later she filed for a TPO claiming DV. we went to court 2 weeks later TPO was granted for 1 year. The judge ordered me 2 visits per week SUPERVISED at anger center. 30 minutes per visit $25 per visit to me. I was also ordered to take a 8 week anger class,judge set up review hearing in 8 weeks to see how things were. 8 weeks later i finished class went back to court got 2 days a week 1hr each at my house then in 2 months they go to 2 hrs per visit. i just got my name on BC and now wanna come up with a shared parenting plan. The ex hates me and doesnt want me to spend time with daughter due to previous DV and the fact that she wants full custody ( or so i assume) she hasnt actually taken me to court asking for full custody .
I just recieved a letter in the mail (The day after i got my name on BC) stating she is asking for child support (wich i have no problem with i helped make our daughter i wanna help pay for her as well. i also think its in her best interest to spend equal amount of timer with me her father. I want an equal opportunity to raise my daughter as i love her very much and want to be a FATHER to her not just the guy who got her mom pregnant. Since the judge 1st ordered 2 days at 30 minutes each visit supervised hen raised it to 2 days 1hr visits at my house supervised by my mother then is gonna raise is to 2 days 2 hrs at my house starting in april (so the pattern as you can see is my time doubles every 2 months) is that a good sign the judge is on my side at all? or is this just common? Also i wanted to add that when we last went to court my ex asked the judge for the visits to go from 2 30 minute visits per week to 1 visit per week for 1 hour and they stay supervised at the place i was doing the supervised visits at. The judge told my ex that 1 visit per week isnt enough contact for my daughter and myself. I have also enrolled in a Parenting Class at the same place i took my anger management courses and the court is aware that i took it upon myself to enroll in that class
1 more thing i wanna add when my ex drops our daughter off for my visits she parks next door and sits in her car for the entire hour i have my visit should i bring that up to the judge or not? its very uncomfortable when i get so little time with our daughter and the ex instead of finding something to do for that hour she feels the need to spy on my visits.
I must add my ex and our daughter live with her parents in like a 4 bedroom house with 11 total people so our daughter doesnt have her own room, where at my house she would be able to have a room of her own.
Our daughter is 6 months old by the way
So my question to everyone here is what amount of time should i ask for in the parenting plan and what time should i expect to get? i really would like 50/50 shared physical and legal custody. I think it would be in our daughters best interest to spend 50% of her time with me. i can provide our daughter with what she needs in food,clothes,diapers, etc etc etc. i make twice what my ex makes.
Im doing this all alone as i cant afford a lawyer so any advice on my situation would be greatly appreciated
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