jennpickles
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What is the name of your state? Louisiana
Here is the situation so far. In November of 2003, I asked my sister is I could take my 5 month old nephew while she got on her feet (She has 2 other children, she was 22 years old, and CLEARLY could not provide for any of them!) She agreed to let me and my husband (fiance at the time) take him. At the time we lived in Kansas City, Mo. About 1 month after we took him, my husband and I moved across the state with our jobs. She made no objection what-so-ever to us taking him. In May she called me and said that she wanted him back. Now, during the 6-7 months we had already had him, she called maybe twice to check on him, she never once came to see him, and never provided any financial assistance for him. When she called in May, I was 6 months pregnant with my first child, and my husband and I realized that we couldn't let her just take him back. We were mom and dad to him. So we hired a lawyer to try and get custody. The lawyer (on a hunch it would work) simply typed a letter to my sister saying that we wanted legal guardianship of my nephew. She signed it. None of us ever had to go to court to make it happen. The lawyer also got my nephews father (who was at the time-and still is, in jail) to sign the same letter.
Now my nephew is 18 months old, and we are the only parents he has known. I can't stand the thought of her ever getting him back. My sister and I are on fairly good terms. We see eachother at family gatherings, etc. Which is also the only time she sees her son (who doesn't know her from Adam). I would like to know what my husband and I would have to do to be able to adopt him. Does her lack of communication with him for long show abandonment? I have tried to read up on this and honestly can't fully see how this would work. I don't see her trying to get him back. But I can't see much sense in sitting around and waiting for her to show up one day and try to take him back. It would kill him, and us. Any advice would be appreciated..
Here is the situation so far. In November of 2003, I asked my sister is I could take my 5 month old nephew while she got on her feet (She has 2 other children, she was 22 years old, and CLEARLY could not provide for any of them!) She agreed to let me and my husband (fiance at the time) take him. At the time we lived in Kansas City, Mo. About 1 month after we took him, my husband and I moved across the state with our jobs. She made no objection what-so-ever to us taking him. In May she called me and said that she wanted him back. Now, during the 6-7 months we had already had him, she called maybe twice to check on him, she never once came to see him, and never provided any financial assistance for him. When she called in May, I was 6 months pregnant with my first child, and my husband and I realized that we couldn't let her just take him back. We were mom and dad to him. So we hired a lawyer to try and get custody. The lawyer (on a hunch it would work) simply typed a letter to my sister saying that we wanted legal guardianship of my nephew. She signed it. None of us ever had to go to court to make it happen. The lawyer also got my nephews father (who was at the time-and still is, in jail) to sign the same letter.
Now my nephew is 18 months old, and we are the only parents he has known. I can't stand the thought of her ever getting him back. My sister and I are on fairly good terms. We see eachother at family gatherings, etc. Which is also the only time she sees her son (who doesn't know her from Adam). I would like to know what my husband and I would have to do to be able to adopt him. Does her lack of communication with him for long show abandonment? I have tried to read up on this and honestly can't fully see how this would work. I don't see her trying to get him back. But I can't see much sense in sitting around and waiting for her to show up one day and try to take him back. It would kill him, and us. Any advice would be appreciated..