cockerspaniel
Junior Member
First, to ablessin: you have no idea what you're talking about. You're making huge assumptions, and you do not have the details. That's all I have to say - it's not worth my energy to go after you; you are so far off that it's ridiculous.
To rmet4nzkx: I appreciate your input. My intial reaction was incredible hurt and betrayal, and wanting back what I feel was lost as a direct result of his exploitation/abuse. The only real thing he can give me is money, which would buy me time. In my first posting, the realization of what had happened was very new, and shocking. There was a strong feeling of wanting him to fix what he did. Civil lawsuits result in monetary rewards, because there really is no real way to replace what the victim has lost. Every person I have spoken with who deal with these situations has told me that he, as the professional, is responsible. Believe me, I argued with that point of view, and I still have a very hard time with it. My goal now is to try to have some good come of this very unfortunate situation. I am not going to do anything to hurt anyone. Chances are, I will just have to accept it and move on. Thank God he didn't leave his wife. I didn't want that at all. Over time, it became clear that this was a huge mistake, and I was relieved that it cam to an ending. Ironically, it was being away from the situation that allowed me to see what I had been denying for so long. This is not the conclusion I wanted to come to. It's been a shock, and very painful. I've have spoken with him several time, and I am not at all trying to blackmail him. However, I think talking about my options made him wake up and face the truth. Which he is doing. I am positive that if the transference/countert. had been handled correctly, this situation would never have occured, and I would still be married. I feel completely betrayed by someone who was suppose to be helping me, and then by someone who supposedly "loved" me. In the end, I have to live with this.
To rmet4nzkx: I appreciate your input. My intial reaction was incredible hurt and betrayal, and wanting back what I feel was lost as a direct result of his exploitation/abuse. The only real thing he can give me is money, which would buy me time. In my first posting, the realization of what had happened was very new, and shocking. There was a strong feeling of wanting him to fix what he did. Civil lawsuits result in monetary rewards, because there really is no real way to replace what the victim has lost. Every person I have spoken with who deal with these situations has told me that he, as the professional, is responsible. Believe me, I argued with that point of view, and I still have a very hard time with it. My goal now is to try to have some good come of this very unfortunate situation. I am not going to do anything to hurt anyone. Chances are, I will just have to accept it and move on. Thank God he didn't leave his wife. I didn't want that at all. Over time, it became clear that this was a huge mistake, and I was relieved that it cam to an ending. Ironically, it was being away from the situation that allowed me to see what I had been denying for so long. This is not the conclusion I wanted to come to. It's been a shock, and very painful. I've have spoken with him several time, and I am not at all trying to blackmail him. However, I think talking about my options made him wake up and face the truth. Which he is doing. I am positive that if the transference/countert. had been handled correctly, this situation would never have occured, and I would still be married. I feel completely betrayed by someone who was suppose to be helping me, and then by someone who supposedly "loved" me. In the end, I have to live with this.