Please excuse the length of this post but my Wife and I are desperate and need some real advice so thank you to anyone who can help.
My Wife and I have a daughter and she has a daughter from a previous relationship but was never married to the guy. I am in the military and am stationed in Kentucky while she stays in Kansas because of restrictions in the current parenting plan. After 2 mediation sessions her ex-boyfriend still would not let her bring her daughter here to Kentucky. I believe it is noteworthy that this ex-boyfriend has a violent history. He was found guilty of violating a protection order my wife had against him and was charged with criminal threat but my wife decided not to press charges. Both of these are on file and on public record.
It really hurts our family because I am unable to be with my wife and the two girls because the court process is so slow and her boyfriend is dragging hit feet. Unfortunately, we cannot afford an expensive great lawyer but do not necessarily qualify for those free lawyer services. Can anyone comment on whether or not his violent history will guarantee my wife is granted custody in a family court hearing? We are more than willing to let her daughter visit her father on holidays, school breaks, and summers, etc. but he wasn't willing to take that deal in mediation (totaling to over 120 days a year; almost a third of the year). We believe keeping our daughters together is in best interest because sisters should be together. Additionally, I have a nice newly renovated house on the military installation. It is a safe community; a family oriented one. The military provides health insurance for the whole family. Also I am an officer in the Army and have my college degree. So I make quite a bit more than a 18 year old enlistee. We believe a standard family environment is best for the child as opposed to the child just living alone with her Dad. She is 3 years old and her sister is almost 1.5 years old.
So please if anyone can help with this, any advice is much appreciated and any lawyers who can guide us in the right direction it would be super helpful. Thank you all!
My Wife and I have a daughter and she has a daughter from a previous relationship but was never married to the guy. I am in the military and am stationed in Kentucky while she stays in Kansas because of restrictions in the current parenting plan. After 2 mediation sessions her ex-boyfriend still would not let her bring her daughter here to Kentucky. I believe it is noteworthy that this ex-boyfriend has a violent history. He was found guilty of violating a protection order my wife had against him and was charged with criminal threat but my wife decided not to press charges. Both of these are on file and on public record.
It really hurts our family because I am unable to be with my wife and the two girls because the court process is so slow and her boyfriend is dragging hit feet. Unfortunately, we cannot afford an expensive great lawyer but do not necessarily qualify for those free lawyer services. Can anyone comment on whether or not his violent history will guarantee my wife is granted custody in a family court hearing? We are more than willing to let her daughter visit her father on holidays, school breaks, and summers, etc. but he wasn't willing to take that deal in mediation (totaling to over 120 days a year; almost a third of the year). We believe keeping our daughters together is in best interest because sisters should be together. Additionally, I have a nice newly renovated house on the military installation. It is a safe community; a family oriented one. The military provides health insurance for the whole family. Also I am an officer in the Army and have my college degree. So I make quite a bit more than a 18 year old enlistee. We believe a standard family environment is best for the child as opposed to the child just living alone with her Dad. She is 3 years old and her sister is almost 1.5 years old.
So please if anyone can help with this, any advice is much appreciated and any lawyers who can guide us in the right direction it would be super helpful. Thank you all!
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