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From : Linda
and family
Re: Foster Parents Dwight and Christina
thru DHR
Foster children Virgina 7/23/96
and Warren Jr. (DJ) 12/19/01
Mother, Amber
We seem to be getting no where. The kinship foster parents
of Virgina and DJ, refuse to cooperate in any way. We just
left an ISP meeting that was a waste of time for everyone.
We are flustrated, disappointed, mad, hurt and everything
in between. I am upset at our system when foster parents
are allowed to call the shots.
This ISP meeting was ordered by the judge to reach some
agreement for fair visitation for my daughter Amber to spend
time with her children, Virginia and DJ. The foster parents
have gone against the judge, I am curious as to how they
will lie their way out of this one. I wonder if its in their favor
that Christina has family that is an attorney at DHR.
I do hope this is not the reason they have been allowed to
violate Virginia, DJ, and Ambers rights time and time again,
to lie and get away with it. I feel like my hands are tied
and its only getting worse. Virginia and DJ will be returned
to their mother, soon. I am sure the FP will find a way
to fight that decission also. What is the purpose of The Foster
Parent Handbook and the rules and regulations of DHR ??
The FP have made up their own rules and it doesn't seem
matter that they have broken all the rules.
Who is in charge ??? Does anyone know ???
RULES THEY HAVE BROKEN :
1. lying : not notifying family members of court dates or
ISP meetings (some of that is the fault of the past social
worker) lying to Amber , telling her she could not be a part
of homework, school activities, bath and bed time, birthdays
etc... She was not even allowed to speak to her children on
Mothers Day
The handbook states those activities are enouraged.
Amber still has her parental rights.
2. not answering the phone or returning family messages.
3. changing their home phone # to a non-published #
4. keeping Virgina from having family contact as a means of
punishment
5. after finding out their new #, some time later they blocked
any phone calls from our home
6. not allowing Virgina and DJ to have postal mail from family
7. they had scheduled Virgina and DJ to have surgery, and
had no intentions of notifying Amber (that was stopped)
8. not notifying Amber when her children were sick or injured
9. not respecting the feeling of Virgina and DJ (making uncalled
for comments in front of Virgina and causing a confrontation
with family members in front of Amber and DJ
10. telling Virgina if she did not behave, she would be taken
from their home (Virgina has ADHD)
11. making trips out of the state of Alabama, without notifying
Kim. (the only reason they went thru the proper channels
when they went to Texas is because Virgina let it slip to Kim
that they were going to Texas) they have taken numerous
other trips with no notification.
I could go on and on, I do not think there is any rules they
have not broken. How much longer will they be allowed to
get away with this ??????
Linda (Virgina and DJs Nanna)
From : Linda
and family
Re: Foster Parents Dwight and Christina
thru DHR
Foster children Virgina 7/23/96
and Warren Jr. (DJ) 12/19/01
Mother, Amber
We seem to be getting no where. The kinship foster parents
of Virgina and DJ, refuse to cooperate in any way. We just
left an ISP meeting that was a waste of time for everyone.
We are flustrated, disappointed, mad, hurt and everything
in between. I am upset at our system when foster parents
are allowed to call the shots.
This ISP meeting was ordered by the judge to reach some
agreement for fair visitation for my daughter Amber to spend
time with her children, Virginia and DJ. The foster parents
have gone against the judge, I am curious as to how they
will lie their way out of this one. I wonder if its in their favor
that Christina has family that is an attorney at DHR.
I do hope this is not the reason they have been allowed to
violate Virginia, DJ, and Ambers rights time and time again,
to lie and get away with it. I feel like my hands are tied
and its only getting worse. Virginia and DJ will be returned
to their mother, soon. I am sure the FP will find a way
to fight that decission also. What is the purpose of The Foster
Parent Handbook and the rules and regulations of DHR ??
The FP have made up their own rules and it doesn't seem
matter that they have broken all the rules.
Who is in charge ??? Does anyone know ???
RULES THEY HAVE BROKEN :
1. lying : not notifying family members of court dates or
ISP meetings (some of that is the fault of the past social
worker) lying to Amber , telling her she could not be a part
of homework, school activities, bath and bed time, birthdays
etc... She was not even allowed to speak to her children on
Mothers Day
The handbook states those activities are enouraged.
Amber still has her parental rights.
2. not answering the phone or returning family messages.
3. changing their home phone # to a non-published #
4. keeping Virgina from having family contact as a means of
punishment
5. after finding out their new #, some time later they blocked
any phone calls from our home
6. not allowing Virgina and DJ to have postal mail from family
7. they had scheduled Virgina and DJ to have surgery, and
had no intentions of notifying Amber (that was stopped)
8. not notifying Amber when her children were sick or injured
9. not respecting the feeling of Virgina and DJ (making uncalled
for comments in front of Virgina and causing a confrontation
with family members in front of Amber and DJ
10. telling Virgina if she did not behave, she would be taken
from their home (Virgina has ADHD)
11. making trips out of the state of Alabama, without notifying
Kim. (the only reason they went thru the proper channels
when they went to Texas is because Virgina let it slip to Kim
that they were going to Texas) they have taken numerous
other trips with no notification.
I could go on and on, I do not think there is any rules they
have not broken. How much longer will they be allowed to
get away with this ??????
Linda (Virgina and DJs Nanna)
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