I thought I was adopted, 42 years ago, in Massachusetts. The man that adopted me was very kind. The woman was not. At the age of 9, my "adopted" father died of his fourth heart attack. After which I became this woman's punching bag, and her slave.
She gave me in depth details about my adoption...that I was a gray market baby. That they found a woman and agreed to pay her to have a girl. She was to seek out a man with a lot of females in his family tree, and would receive compensation only after delivering a girl. That the state found out the adoption was illegal and dragged them into court when I was a year old. They were reprimanded by the judge for what they pulled, told he could take me away from them right then and there. (they had to go the illegal route as my "adopted" mother failed the psych. evals at two different agencies) The Department of Child Welfare did not approve the adoption. A social worker was supposed to come back out to their home for an inspection. But this never happened. The courts didn't make contact, so she didn't contact them.
My entire childhood I was trapped by this person. I was placed in foster care for a short time, but always sent back to her. Because I became so dark in the summer, I was also told I was Greek.(this will be pertinant later)
It was a very abusive adoption(emotional,physical,sexual). Much I'd blocked out, until my two daughters began disclosing unbelievable events of sexual abuse by my adopted mother. Memories came flooding back, and I have had no contact with my adoptive family for almost twenty years.
She(my adopted mother) and my adopted brother were placed on the MA Central Registry for Child Molesters in 1990.
I have been desperately trying to find a way to dissolve this adopted. After an enormous amount of digging, and little help from the State of MA, Probate, and Social Services, I've come to find out that the adoption was never finalized! Vital Statistics gave these two people a birth certificate with their names as parents, when all they had was proof the adoption was filed, not finalized. They had money, it's amazing what you can buy.
I've had a number of suggestions...of course lawsuit - the thought of contacting that woman again makes me shudder. Suing Massachusetts seems impossible, as I can't imagine a state without a legal lupole in matters like this. I still want to have the adoption dissolved. But if there is no adoption, what's to dissolve. I have my original birth certificate, but it doesn't have a first name on it so it isn't legal. Basically, everything about my life is a lie. I'm very angry, and would like to do something other than write an autobiography.(my therapy through this insanity)
I want vindication. For myself, and for my kids. I want my life back, and I want my true surname(s) back.
Please help!?????
Ecco
P.S. I have found bio-Dad(had DNA testing), and am now registered member of Indian Tribe in New York.What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?
She gave me in depth details about my adoption...that I was a gray market baby. That they found a woman and agreed to pay her to have a girl. She was to seek out a man with a lot of females in his family tree, and would receive compensation only after delivering a girl. That the state found out the adoption was illegal and dragged them into court when I was a year old. They were reprimanded by the judge for what they pulled, told he could take me away from them right then and there. (they had to go the illegal route as my "adopted" mother failed the psych. evals at two different agencies) The Department of Child Welfare did not approve the adoption. A social worker was supposed to come back out to their home for an inspection. But this never happened. The courts didn't make contact, so she didn't contact them.
My entire childhood I was trapped by this person. I was placed in foster care for a short time, but always sent back to her. Because I became so dark in the summer, I was also told I was Greek.(this will be pertinant later)
It was a very abusive adoption(emotional,physical,sexual). Much I'd blocked out, until my two daughters began disclosing unbelievable events of sexual abuse by my adopted mother. Memories came flooding back, and I have had no contact with my adoptive family for almost twenty years.
She(my adopted mother) and my adopted brother were placed on the MA Central Registry for Child Molesters in 1990.
I have been desperately trying to find a way to dissolve this adopted. After an enormous amount of digging, and little help from the State of MA, Probate, and Social Services, I've come to find out that the adoption was never finalized! Vital Statistics gave these two people a birth certificate with their names as parents, when all they had was proof the adoption was filed, not finalized. They had money, it's amazing what you can buy.
I've had a number of suggestions...of course lawsuit - the thought of contacting that woman again makes me shudder. Suing Massachusetts seems impossible, as I can't imagine a state without a legal lupole in matters like this. I still want to have the adoption dissolved. But if there is no adoption, what's to dissolve. I have my original birth certificate, but it doesn't have a first name on it so it isn't legal. Basically, everything about my life is a lie. I'm very angry, and would like to do something other than write an autobiography.(my therapy through this insanity)
I want vindication. For myself, and for my kids. I want my life back, and I want my true surname(s) back.
Please help!?????
Ecco
P.S. I have found bio-Dad(had DNA testing), and am now registered member of Indian Tribe in New York.What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?