Manager is verbally abusive

[Thebmwauthority]

Unfiltered manager is known to be verbally assaultive to all. Hides it from senior management. Been going on for past two years.

Told me when I asked him to assist the following:

“just go home and kill yourself”
“I’ll get the shovels”
“I’ll even dig the hole”

Not the first time he said this.

Also, belittles me and other staff members to no end. Whether it is religious, physical, or performance remarks he is constantly commenting.

This is just the tip of the iceberg.

What is my recourse as I like and enjoy my job?

 

[adjusterjack]

Record him and sent the tape to senior management anonymously.

But first tell us your state (like you were asked when you registered, but ignored) so we can tell you if it's legal.

 

[Thebmwauthority]

NJ

 

[adjusterjack]

NJ is a one party consent state. You may legally record a conversation to which you are a party and you do not the consent or even the other party's knowledge that you are recording.

NJ Statute 2A:156A-4d

New Jersey Revised Statutes Section 2A:156A-4 (2022) - Lawful interception activities; exceptions :: 2022 New Jersey Revised Statutes :: US Codes and Statutes :: US Law :: Justia

 

[zddoodah]

There's nothing illegal about what you described. It's a human resources matter.

 

[cbg]

We have great freedom in this country to be a jerk. By all means talk to HR about it, but if HR refuses to take action there's no recourse for you in the law.

 

[commentator]

What your choice is, after working for him for two years of this, is to either let his stupid comments upset you or not. If he is physically abusive, press charges. Otherwise, you do not have to respond. If you want to stir things up, do record him, file a complaint with HR, and do not be surprised if they do absolutely nothing. His management technique is successful if you are doing your job. There is no law that requires a manager speak to you respectfully or be "nice" to you. Laugh at him. Or tell him you don't appreciate what he's saying. What's he going to do, fire you? No, he's bullying you verbally, but you are an adult with a choice in the matter.

 

[quincy]

... I like and enjoy my job ...

On the plus side, you “like and enjoy” your job.

I am curious: You have not expressed to others or had any unexpressed suicidal thoughts, have you?