What is the name of your state? North Carolina
Quick Update : Dad's has full custody for 5 years (2 kids). Mom has been in New York for those years until about a year ago. She moved back here about 30 minutes away (lives with her boyfriend & his parents). Verbal agreement had been going fine during that time. At end of summer mom decides she wants her "summer visitation" according to the old / current visitation papers that pertained to her living in NY --- and takes kids out of church without anyone knowing (this was when there was only one week left of her "summer visitation".
Mom / Dad try to work it new visitation schedule that pertains to her living closer -- through lawyers. That doesn't work -- mom say's "let's just go to mediation". Dad had offered every other weekend and one day per week. That wasn't good enough -- she wants "two days per week".
So -- they go to mediation last week. About 45 minutes into mediation mom stands up and says "let's just take it to court". She apparently gets flustered because dad is discussing all of the reasons he feels the kids are not safe at her / her boyfriends residence. He also catches her on all of her lies (he had lots of documentation !!!). He also explains that two days a week is just too hectic after school with the kids bouncing back and forth that much.....especiallly with ADHD son. He needs as much stability as possible. They also have many after school activities.
Anyway, the mediator explains that the "norm" for visitation is every other weekend and that's what a judge would most likely give them.
And all this time dad is still offerering EOW and 1 day per week !!!
So here we are now ! After having the chance of 3 mediation sessions - mom calls it quits and wants to go to court. They are still working off of a temporary EOW order until court - which may not be until January / February.
Now mom calls yesterday and says she is canceling next weekends visitation with the kids because she is going to the beach !! AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHh
THIS IS THE SAME WOMAN WHO WANTS TO GO TO COURT BECAUSE SHE WANTS AN EXTRA DAY A WEEK WITH THE KIDS !!
We just want opinions **************.Was the mediator right ? Is the "norm" EOW for visitation where the parent lives 30 minutes away ?
Is my husband doing the wrong thing not agreeing to 2 days during the week -- he is just trying to do what's best for the kids ??? Mind you -- most weeks mom doesn't have off two days a week !! (she works at the mall)
Thanks for any opinions --suggestions.
MamaDi
Quick Update : Dad's has full custody for 5 years (2 kids). Mom has been in New York for those years until about a year ago. She moved back here about 30 minutes away (lives with her boyfriend & his parents). Verbal agreement had been going fine during that time. At end of summer mom decides she wants her "summer visitation" according to the old / current visitation papers that pertained to her living in NY --- and takes kids out of church without anyone knowing (this was when there was only one week left of her "summer visitation".
Mom / Dad try to work it new visitation schedule that pertains to her living closer -- through lawyers. That doesn't work -- mom say's "let's just go to mediation". Dad had offered every other weekend and one day per week. That wasn't good enough -- she wants "two days per week".
So -- they go to mediation last week. About 45 minutes into mediation mom stands up and says "let's just take it to court". She apparently gets flustered because dad is discussing all of the reasons he feels the kids are not safe at her / her boyfriends residence. He also catches her on all of her lies (he had lots of documentation !!!). He also explains that two days a week is just too hectic after school with the kids bouncing back and forth that much.....especiallly with ADHD son. He needs as much stability as possible. They also have many after school activities.
Anyway, the mediator explains that the "norm" for visitation is every other weekend and that's what a judge would most likely give them.
And all this time dad is still offerering EOW and 1 day per week !!!
So here we are now ! After having the chance of 3 mediation sessions - mom calls it quits and wants to go to court. They are still working off of a temporary EOW order until court - which may not be until January / February.
Now mom calls yesterday and says she is canceling next weekends visitation with the kids because she is going to the beach !! AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHh
THIS IS THE SAME WOMAN WHO WANTS TO GO TO COURT BECAUSE SHE WANTS AN EXTRA DAY A WEEK WITH THE KIDS !!
We just want opinions **************.Was the mediator right ? Is the "norm" EOW for visitation where the parent lives 30 minutes away ?
Is my husband doing the wrong thing not agreeing to 2 days during the week -- he is just trying to do what's best for the kids ??? Mind you -- most weeks mom doesn't have off two days a week !! (she works at the mall)
Thanks for any opinions --suggestions.
MamaDi