What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Missouri
Sorry if this doesn't seem to fit in this category, but I didn't know where else to put it.
There was a hearing (regarding contempt) in June 2008. Mom was not informing Dad of doctor appointments or charges rendered. After two years of expenses being incurred and only after Mom was served her show cause order and contempt motion, Mom finally made it available to view claims through the insurance company online. Not to Dad's surprise, there were several claims with copays among other things that Mom had never informed Dad of.
At the June '08 hearing, Mom gave Dad copies of some of the medical bills, with a cover paper explaining a grand total, how much is left to pay, how much Mom has paid up to that point, and how much Dad's obligation is. Dad and I live 8 hours away from where the hearing was held. On the way driving to this hearing, Dad's lawyer and Mom's lawyer tried to hammer out agreements regarding the issues, and by the actual time of the hearing Dad had only seen these copies of bills and the cover paper just minutes before the actual hearing. When Dad saw that the outstanding balance for all bills was only about ten bucks more than his 50% obligation, he agreed to pay the outstanding balances based on that number.
For one of the providers there were 5 accounts stated. Mom indicated on her cover letter that she had already paid 3 of the 5 accounts (let's call them A,B, and C,) which meant that Dad essentially agreed to pay the remaining 2 (D and E.)
Recently, Dad was going over these bills and realized that Mom only paid A and B of the accounts, and not C; Dad had actually paid C. It's a small amount that offsets his obligation by about $50 (meaning his obligation was about $50 less than what the numbers indicated on Mom's cover letter.) It didn't have much effect on Dad's (our) finances because we still planned to pay the amount he agreed upon at the hearing.
However, the provider (whose bills were now at in-house collections and therefore were no longer sending Mom bills) sent Dad account statements for D, E, and B! Mom claimed in her cover letter that she paid B.
When Dad brought this up to Mom, indicating that he still planned on paying the amount they verbally agreed upon, and that Mom was responsible to make sure account B was paid, Mom wasn't agreeable. She obviously had never paid it, and now that she realized her oversight, she doesn't want to pay it. She told Dad that she paid numerous copays that added up over the years, and Dad never reimbursed her his 50% for those. She said he agreed to pay the outstanding balances, and therefore he should pay the outstanding balances.
In Dad's defense, he agreed to pay a certain amount not including account B (because Mom indicated she had paid it already.)
In Mom's defense, Dad never paid his half of all those other copays so to be fair he should just pay this account.
In Dad's defense, Mom never informed him of these appointments, and to date still has not provided him any copies of those copay payment receipts. The June hearing was to try and square everything away. Mom brought all kinds of medical bills (some which she never informed Dad of and were years old by then,) and Dad did not fight about any of it but instead simply agreed to pay what was left to pay.
Are the several-years-old copays that were incurred prior to the hearing in June 2008 moot? Mom was given several months notice to bring in these receipts to the hearing- she even included bills for services she no longer had copies of the bills for, so she very well could have included the copays. Instead, both lawyers, Mom, and Dad all agreed on the number that Dad would pay.
Only problem is, NONE of this is in writing. Dad is still keeping his word and paying what he agreed to pay.
Sorry if this doesn't seem to fit in this category, but I didn't know where else to put it.
There was a hearing (regarding contempt) in June 2008. Mom was not informing Dad of doctor appointments or charges rendered. After two years of expenses being incurred and only after Mom was served her show cause order and contempt motion, Mom finally made it available to view claims through the insurance company online. Not to Dad's surprise, there were several claims with copays among other things that Mom had never informed Dad of.
At the June '08 hearing, Mom gave Dad copies of some of the medical bills, with a cover paper explaining a grand total, how much is left to pay, how much Mom has paid up to that point, and how much Dad's obligation is. Dad and I live 8 hours away from where the hearing was held. On the way driving to this hearing, Dad's lawyer and Mom's lawyer tried to hammer out agreements regarding the issues, and by the actual time of the hearing Dad had only seen these copies of bills and the cover paper just minutes before the actual hearing. When Dad saw that the outstanding balance for all bills was only about ten bucks more than his 50% obligation, he agreed to pay the outstanding balances based on that number.
For one of the providers there were 5 accounts stated. Mom indicated on her cover letter that she had already paid 3 of the 5 accounts (let's call them A,B, and C,) which meant that Dad essentially agreed to pay the remaining 2 (D and E.)
Recently, Dad was going over these bills and realized that Mom only paid A and B of the accounts, and not C; Dad had actually paid C. It's a small amount that offsets his obligation by about $50 (meaning his obligation was about $50 less than what the numbers indicated on Mom's cover letter.) It didn't have much effect on Dad's (our) finances because we still planned to pay the amount he agreed upon at the hearing.
However, the provider (whose bills were now at in-house collections and therefore were no longer sending Mom bills) sent Dad account statements for D, E, and B! Mom claimed in her cover letter that she paid B.
When Dad brought this up to Mom, indicating that he still planned on paying the amount they verbally agreed upon, and that Mom was responsible to make sure account B was paid, Mom wasn't agreeable. She obviously had never paid it, and now that she realized her oversight, she doesn't want to pay it. She told Dad that she paid numerous copays that added up over the years, and Dad never reimbursed her his 50% for those. She said he agreed to pay the outstanding balances, and therefore he should pay the outstanding balances.
In Dad's defense, he agreed to pay a certain amount not including account B (because Mom indicated she had paid it already.)
In Mom's defense, Dad never paid his half of all those other copays so to be fair he should just pay this account.
In Dad's defense, Mom never informed him of these appointments, and to date still has not provided him any copies of those copay payment receipts. The June hearing was to try and square everything away. Mom brought all kinds of medical bills (some which she never informed Dad of and were years old by then,) and Dad did not fight about any of it but instead simply agreed to pay what was left to pay.
Are the several-years-old copays that were incurred prior to the hearing in June 2008 moot? Mom was given several months notice to bring in these receipts to the hearing- she even included bills for services she no longer had copies of the bills for, so she very well could have included the copays. Instead, both lawyers, Mom, and Dad all agreed on the number that Dad would pay.
Only problem is, NONE of this is in writing. Dad is still keeping his word and paying what he agreed to pay.
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