What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois
My ex and I were in court in Feburary for a modification of our CS and visitation agreements. I just got a copy of the agreement that my ex and the judge signed off on. I did not sign it. It was written by ex's attorney. My problem is that there are a couple of things in it that were not even discussed let alone me agreeing to them. We had agreed outside of court to everything except transportation, or so I thought. Ex wanted to split transportation while I did not. He was the one who moved over 2 hours away. Judge agreed with me on this issue.
The two most important issues that are not correct are Holiday time and pick up and drop off places. We had agreed that I could have every Thanksgiving while he gets every Friday after Thanksgiving. This would allow him to not to have to make another 4 hour round trip during that day. His weekend usually falls on Thanksgiving weekend. This way he always gets 3 days. In my copy of the new orders it does not say anything about me getting every Thanksgiving, just him getting every Friday after Thanksgiving. So, basically when its his year for Thanksgiving I get no holiday time with the girls.
Secondly, ex was very upset he still had to come to my home for pick up and drop off when we left court that day. Now, in the new orders it says I am to meet him in the next town over which is about 10 miles away. Granted that's not very far away, but first of all, this was not agreed to. Secondly, he comes up on an interstate that is half way between the two towns so there is really no need to go to the second town. Had he even mentioned wanting to meet else where we could have met in my home town, while the town is small we do have gas stations! LOL. I suggested this to him this morning and he is against it. He told me he wants me to have to do at least some driving if he has to make all of these trips up here.
It also says in the papers he can send anyone he feels is competent to get the girls. Normally, I wouldn't have any trouble with this. His parents do come get the girls most of the time. I have no problems with this. My concern is him sending someone I do not know. Do I really have to send my girls with someone I do not know? How responsible is that? I suggested to him that he brings who ever else he thinks he may have help him with him so I can meet them. This would eliminate the problem. He said no that if he feels they are responsible that is enough. I just don't feel right doing that. Mix that in with his calls to DCFS and I really don't like it.
So, my question is how binding is this new agreement when I did not sign it and ex's attorney added things I did not agree to? I know the judge signed it so I figure I'm out of luck, but still hoping. Could we go for a stipulated agreement to change the parts that are not correct? I do have an attorney, but he's on vacation for the next two weeks. WIll I have to meet ex in the next town over for his pick up next week?
And a short update: DCFS declared the abuse charges against my husband unfounded. The DCFS worker told me he could see ex's fingerprints all over the charges, but since it wasn't actually him that called in the report they couldn't do anything about it. He did tell us to keep our eyes open and be prepared, they feel he will do it again.
My ex and I were in court in Feburary for a modification of our CS and visitation agreements. I just got a copy of the agreement that my ex and the judge signed off on. I did not sign it. It was written by ex's attorney. My problem is that there are a couple of things in it that were not even discussed let alone me agreeing to them. We had agreed outside of court to everything except transportation, or so I thought. Ex wanted to split transportation while I did not. He was the one who moved over 2 hours away. Judge agreed with me on this issue.
The two most important issues that are not correct are Holiday time and pick up and drop off places. We had agreed that I could have every Thanksgiving while he gets every Friday after Thanksgiving. This would allow him to not to have to make another 4 hour round trip during that day. His weekend usually falls on Thanksgiving weekend. This way he always gets 3 days. In my copy of the new orders it does not say anything about me getting every Thanksgiving, just him getting every Friday after Thanksgiving. So, basically when its his year for Thanksgiving I get no holiday time with the girls.
Secondly, ex was very upset he still had to come to my home for pick up and drop off when we left court that day. Now, in the new orders it says I am to meet him in the next town over which is about 10 miles away. Granted that's not very far away, but first of all, this was not agreed to. Secondly, he comes up on an interstate that is half way between the two towns so there is really no need to go to the second town. Had he even mentioned wanting to meet else where we could have met in my home town, while the town is small we do have gas stations! LOL. I suggested this to him this morning and he is against it. He told me he wants me to have to do at least some driving if he has to make all of these trips up here.
It also says in the papers he can send anyone he feels is competent to get the girls. Normally, I wouldn't have any trouble with this. His parents do come get the girls most of the time. I have no problems with this. My concern is him sending someone I do not know. Do I really have to send my girls with someone I do not know? How responsible is that? I suggested to him that he brings who ever else he thinks he may have help him with him so I can meet them. This would eliminate the problem. He said no that if he feels they are responsible that is enough. I just don't feel right doing that. Mix that in with his calls to DCFS and I really don't like it.
So, my question is how binding is this new agreement when I did not sign it and ex's attorney added things I did not agree to? I know the judge signed it so I figure I'm out of luck, but still hoping. Could we go for a stipulated agreement to change the parts that are not correct? I do have an attorney, but he's on vacation for the next two weeks. WIll I have to meet ex in the next town over for his pick up next week?
And a short update: DCFS declared the abuse charges against my husband unfounded. The DCFS worker told me he could see ex's fingerprints all over the charges, but since it wasn't actually him that called in the report they couldn't do anything about it. He did tell us to keep our eyes open and be prepared, they feel he will do it again.