quincy
Senior Member
This is a bit trickier. Legally all letters and cards that are addressed to your daughter belong to her, not you.I really appreciate everyone's kind words and advice.
One more question! Although it is probably just a matter of personal opinion...
How do you think I should handle the letters/cards my mother continues to send to my daughter? Trash them/ignore them, or "Return To Sender"?
I really don't even want to see them in my mailbox, as it brings up the whole emotional issue again, so returning would get my point across, yet could also just piss her off enough to mess with me more. Thoughts?
Thank you.
How old is your daughter again?
I would hand your daughter's mail to her and let your daughter do with the letters and cards what she pleases. She is not you and she could have very different feelings about her grandmother than you have about your mom. If you are close to your daughter, your daughter will let you know how she feels about this continued contact.
But I definitely would not trash these letters and cards, or ignore them, or do a "return to sender." If the cards and letters upset you, don't read them (you probably shouldn't anyway) and if the cards and letters upset your daughter, she doesn't have to read them and she can trash them, ignore them or return them.
This is outside the area of defamation law, by the way. The decision you make is ultimately up to you.