About a Boy
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What is the name of your state? NC
My former lawyer received (and sent on to me) a Motion for Contempt from a lawyer representing my ex-girlfriend. Here's the quick story. We had a son. We worked out a deal through our lawyers for visitation and child support. I had to pay every paycheck a set amount.
After a few months of that,what I had realized before our agreement was even reached came true: I couldn't make enough to pay the bills I already had in addition to the child support.
Why did I take this deal? Because if I didn't she was going to drag me to court and I could afford that.
So I tried to get a second job. My first employer did not appreciate that and after a truly pathetic raise, I changed my availability to focus full time at my new job. That new job was as a waiter at a brand new resturaunt and business was so slow that I was spending more on gas in a week than earning there. Meanwhile, at my original job, my head manager told me he was going to put me back on my old availability and that if I didn't show up for those shifts, he'd fire me. Facing being fired or working a two week notice, I worked the two weeks and quit (so as not to get fired). That left me with the waiter job not paying me anything.
I decided I had to do something different. I chose to go back to school to learn some computer skills so I could finally get a real job and be able to pay all my bills PLUS child support. I am still in school, having moved back home with my parents to avoid living on the street.
My Ex knows all this but has nonetheless served me with this Motion for Contempt. I know it is because I have not paid her in about four months, but that is because I do not have a job. I am not earning money. My parents are nice enough to handle my bills for me right now.
I'm guessing my ex will probably say I quit my job on purpose so that I wouldn't have to pay her, but that is not the case. It was a bad situation that would have ended with me getting fired.
I'm trying to do the right thing now, but she doesn't seem to care or maybe she just doesn't believe I'm doing what I say. Doesn't really matter.
What does is that now I have a court case (no date yet) and I don't have a lawyer.
I tried calling Legal Aid, but she beat me to the punch. They said they could not help me because of a conflict of interest. So I'm turning to you guys on the forum for a last resort help.
Thanks in advance.
Oh, just wanted to add: I DO intend to pay all child support that I've missed, but I need to get finished with my classes so that I can have a chance to get a job that will allow me to pay bills and not perpetually be in debt or living check to check.
Just wanted to make my intentions clear. I AM a responsible person and father. I am not trying to duck my obligations to my son.What is the name of your state?
My former lawyer received (and sent on to me) a Motion for Contempt from a lawyer representing my ex-girlfriend. Here's the quick story. We had a son. We worked out a deal through our lawyers for visitation and child support. I had to pay every paycheck a set amount.
After a few months of that,what I had realized before our agreement was even reached came true: I couldn't make enough to pay the bills I already had in addition to the child support.
Why did I take this deal? Because if I didn't she was going to drag me to court and I could afford that.
So I tried to get a second job. My first employer did not appreciate that and after a truly pathetic raise, I changed my availability to focus full time at my new job. That new job was as a waiter at a brand new resturaunt and business was so slow that I was spending more on gas in a week than earning there. Meanwhile, at my original job, my head manager told me he was going to put me back on my old availability and that if I didn't show up for those shifts, he'd fire me. Facing being fired or working a two week notice, I worked the two weeks and quit (so as not to get fired). That left me with the waiter job not paying me anything.
I decided I had to do something different. I chose to go back to school to learn some computer skills so I could finally get a real job and be able to pay all my bills PLUS child support. I am still in school, having moved back home with my parents to avoid living on the street.
My Ex knows all this but has nonetheless served me with this Motion for Contempt. I know it is because I have not paid her in about four months, but that is because I do not have a job. I am not earning money. My parents are nice enough to handle my bills for me right now.
I'm guessing my ex will probably say I quit my job on purpose so that I wouldn't have to pay her, but that is not the case. It was a bad situation that would have ended with me getting fired.
I'm trying to do the right thing now, but she doesn't seem to care or maybe she just doesn't believe I'm doing what I say. Doesn't really matter.
What does is that now I have a court case (no date yet) and I don't have a lawyer.
I tried calling Legal Aid, but she beat me to the punch. They said they could not help me because of a conflict of interest. So I'm turning to you guys on the forum for a last resort help.
Thanks in advance.
Oh, just wanted to add: I DO intend to pay all child support that I've missed, but I need to get finished with my classes so that I can have a chance to get a job that will allow me to pay bills and not perpetually be in debt or living check to check.
Just wanted to make my intentions clear. I AM a responsible person and father. I am not trying to duck my obligations to my son.What is the name of your state?