What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oklahoma, however i have only been here 3 months so it may involve Wa as well
My husband recieved a job offer we couldnt refuse in Ok and we proceeded to move our family here. We have been here 3 months all has been well. Within the last 2 years my sons father has no had any contact with him, no calls, letters, presents or visits of any sort. He has made no attempt to any contact either. I researched Wa law and found that i did no legally have to inform the father of the move since we have no parenting plan of any sort. We have never been to court and the small amount of child support i do get has to be garnished from his paychecks and are not paid willingly We have been waiting to become citizens of Oklahoma (6mths is the timeline) and we were going to pursue a step-parent adoption according to OK state laws. I have just recently received a text message from the father stating he wants to see his son. Out of the blue and after 2 years of nothing. My son does not want to see his father, does not even consider him his father. My husband has raised my son since he was 18mths old. Even when there was contact between my sons father and him it was few and far between. His father sent a random text to me in April of '14 that he was going to be "moving away" never where to i assumed it was out of state. I do not know that his father will actually attempt a case for visitation but my son is terrified he will be forced into visits. The father has never been legally charge with anything however has a long long history of domestic abuse on me and his own mother, in which my son witnessed personally. I am afraid for my child and want to protect him at all costs. My son has dreamed of being adopted by his step dad for many years and even if that doesnt happen i do not want my son to be forced to visit his father almost 2000 miles away. Do i have a leg to stand on? should i proceed or wait for the father to make the first move? Does stating he wants contact count as an "attempt? All he said was he wants to see him and doesnt know what to do, there was no asking to see or talk to him, no plans made im not sure of the technicality of it all. Thanks
My husband recieved a job offer we couldnt refuse in Ok and we proceeded to move our family here. We have been here 3 months all has been well. Within the last 2 years my sons father has no had any contact with him, no calls, letters, presents or visits of any sort. He has made no attempt to any contact either. I researched Wa law and found that i did no legally have to inform the father of the move since we have no parenting plan of any sort. We have never been to court and the small amount of child support i do get has to be garnished from his paychecks and are not paid willingly We have been waiting to become citizens of Oklahoma (6mths is the timeline) and we were going to pursue a step-parent adoption according to OK state laws. I have just recently received a text message from the father stating he wants to see his son. Out of the blue and after 2 years of nothing. My son does not want to see his father, does not even consider him his father. My husband has raised my son since he was 18mths old. Even when there was contact between my sons father and him it was few and far between. His father sent a random text to me in April of '14 that he was going to be "moving away" never where to i assumed it was out of state. I do not know that his father will actually attempt a case for visitation but my son is terrified he will be forced into visits. The father has never been legally charge with anything however has a long long history of domestic abuse on me and his own mother, in which my son witnessed personally. I am afraid for my child and want to protect him at all costs. My son has dreamed of being adopted by his step dad for many years and even if that doesnt happen i do not want my son to be forced to visit his father almost 2000 miles away. Do i have a leg to stand on? should i proceed or wait for the father to make the first move? Does stating he wants contact count as an "attempt? All he said was he wants to see him and doesnt know what to do, there was no asking to see or talk to him, no plans made im not sure of the technicality of it all. Thanks