Maybe I'm all by myself here but I was raised that when you have kids, you do what's best for them and that includes a college education. Paying for their education is not spoiling them. You're trying to help give your children a better life so they can get a good career and be self sufficient. I wouldn't want my kids to go to the Govt to get hand outs for school as long as I'm able to pay for it. To me, spoiling kids is giving them everything that they want and they don't need it. People need a college education. I just don't understand how that can be spoiling someone. (It's not like they're 5 years old whining for dessert before dinner.) They can only better themselves for it. Unfortunately not everyone can go to college. Not only that but not everyone qualifies for financial aid. I feel I do owe my children a college education. That's the least I can do for bringing into this screwed up world. I don't think I could forgive myself if I can't put them through college. (but that's just me)
I also don't believe you can make the same grades working 2 jobs trying to pay for your schooling, you're spending all your studying time working. I know my grades suffered in high school and college when I tried it.
I'm not saying let a child become a professional student. I'm just saying that before I had kids one of the first things on my agenda is to save for their college education. I'm the parent and it's my responsibility to make sure they get the education they need so they don't grow up poor and living off welfare because they can't get a decent job because they have no decent education. That was one of my most major concerns when I thought about having kids. Guess other parents aren't as concerned about it.
I'm also only saying this about parents who can afford to send their kids through college.
I think both parents should be responsible if they can afford it whether they are together or not.
This is just my opinion and the way I was raised and what I believe in. I am in no way trying to argue or start a war.
I understand everyone is entitled to their opinions and beliefs, just like I am. I'm just sharing my views.
To answer your question about college though. It depends on what is in the child support order or the state guidelines.