What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oregon
I'll try to make this as brief as possible.
Up until a year ago my ex and I got along ok, we could communicate and even did stuff together with our son. He gets visitation every other weekend, which up until a year ago he didn't use often. I have never denied him time with our son even on weekends that weren't his. Even when he did take him he wouldn't spend time with him. Our son would always come home and say he wishes his dad would play with him. Our son will soon be 8 by the way.
About a year ago I got a new boyfriend, the only one I’ve had since the divorce, which was about 6 years ago. All of a sudden my ex has become super dad of the year, which is fine it's got to be better than ignoring him.
Last summer while he had him for a month he told him lies about my boyfriend and I. He also told him about serial killers and other scary things that I really don't think are appropriate for a 6-7 year old. I know he said these things because our son told me when I got him back. Throughout the year he continues to tell me things his dad says about us.
He has told him that I can't protect him against "bad guys" and that they could break into the house at night and hurt him. Which has made him scared to go to bed.
He has told him that he doesn't trust me or any of my friends.
He took him to the Dr. 3 times without my knowledge and got him shots and had him checked for sexual abuse.
He calls every day sometimes 2 and 3 times. Once when I was making my son a Legend of Zelda shield he called and when he found out what I was doing he told my son the glue I was using is poison and will make him sick.
He told him he can't shower in my bathroom anymore because he'll get Athlete's foot. Excuse me but this is my house not his.
He sleeps in the same bed with him while he has our son.
He bought him real ninja weapons for xmas, not the practice ones but the real razor sharp ones.
He refuses to talk to me about anything, he has our son do it. Which makes me the bad guy if i say no.
This is by no means everything but this last lie he told is the worst.
Little background here...We both have 2 older kids in their 20's by previous marriages.
He told our son that my younger daughter tried to kill him. He said he walked in on her feeding him little pieces of wire. He rushed him to the hospital in time to save him from a perforated intestine. What bothers me is he believes him. He can't see how crazy of a story that is. I can assure you it never happened.
I don't know what to do, all these lies are affecting him. He's not as affectionate to me anymore in fact sometimes he's just plain mean. Sometimes it seems as though he's only here because he has to be. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I'll try to make this as brief as possible.
Up until a year ago my ex and I got along ok, we could communicate and even did stuff together with our son. He gets visitation every other weekend, which up until a year ago he didn't use often. I have never denied him time with our son even on weekends that weren't his. Even when he did take him he wouldn't spend time with him. Our son would always come home and say he wishes his dad would play with him. Our son will soon be 8 by the way.
About a year ago I got a new boyfriend, the only one I’ve had since the divorce, which was about 6 years ago. All of a sudden my ex has become super dad of the year, which is fine it's got to be better than ignoring him.
Last summer while he had him for a month he told him lies about my boyfriend and I. He also told him about serial killers and other scary things that I really don't think are appropriate for a 6-7 year old. I know he said these things because our son told me when I got him back. Throughout the year he continues to tell me things his dad says about us.
He has told him that I can't protect him against "bad guys" and that they could break into the house at night and hurt him. Which has made him scared to go to bed.
He has told him that he doesn't trust me or any of my friends.
He took him to the Dr. 3 times without my knowledge and got him shots and had him checked for sexual abuse.
He calls every day sometimes 2 and 3 times. Once when I was making my son a Legend of Zelda shield he called and when he found out what I was doing he told my son the glue I was using is poison and will make him sick.
He told him he can't shower in my bathroom anymore because he'll get Athlete's foot. Excuse me but this is my house not his.
He sleeps in the same bed with him while he has our son.
He bought him real ninja weapons for xmas, not the practice ones but the real razor sharp ones.
He refuses to talk to me about anything, he has our son do it. Which makes me the bad guy if i say no.
This is by no means everything but this last lie he told is the worst.
Little background here...We both have 2 older kids in their 20's by previous marriages.
He told our son that my younger daughter tried to kill him. He said he walked in on her feeding him little pieces of wire. He rushed him to the hospital in time to save him from a perforated intestine. What bothers me is he believes him. He can't see how crazy of a story that is. I can assure you it never happened.
I don't know what to do, all these lies are affecting him. He's not as affectionate to me anymore in fact sometimes he's just plain mean. Sometimes it seems as though he's only here because he has to be. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.