What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TN/AL
I had an affair about 3 years ago and saw the lady for a while and the relationship produced a child, a wonderful son. I have since gotten back with my wife and we want custody of my son from my affair. She is fully willing to accept and raise him with me. My sons mother is 34 unemployed, just recently moved in with her mother states away and now is wanting to dominate everything when it comes to visitation or even phone calls. She does however still want me to keep sending money. I have kept her and her family up for 3 years now and she has recently allowed 3 of her children 13, 10, 17 to go and live with their fathers and kept one daughter and my son. She gets no child support but I ensure my son gets everything he needs along with her daughter that lives there. She has numerous medical issues some fake but spends alot of time in the hospital, has thousands of bills from everywhere from hospital and drs visits she never pays. I feel without her family immediatly involved he will not be raised with any opportunities or the right love and attention that my wife and I could provide. We want to attempt to get custody but I have never done a blood test to ensure he is mine but irregardless he is and will always be. I did not sign his birth certificate becasue I was out of the country in the military and when i got back I saw a different side of her that made me nervous about accepting legal documentation on it. Anyway she is full of threats and I have paid for everything they have needed for 3 years now, what can I do? Thanks heartbroken for my child
I had an affair about 3 years ago and saw the lady for a while and the relationship produced a child, a wonderful son. I have since gotten back with my wife and we want custody of my son from my affair. She is fully willing to accept and raise him with me. My sons mother is 34 unemployed, just recently moved in with her mother states away and now is wanting to dominate everything when it comes to visitation or even phone calls. She does however still want me to keep sending money. I have kept her and her family up for 3 years now and she has recently allowed 3 of her children 13, 10, 17 to go and live with their fathers and kept one daughter and my son. She gets no child support but I ensure my son gets everything he needs along with her daughter that lives there. She has numerous medical issues some fake but spends alot of time in the hospital, has thousands of bills from everywhere from hospital and drs visits she never pays. I feel without her family immediatly involved he will not be raised with any opportunities or the right love and attention that my wife and I could provide. We want to attempt to get custody but I have never done a blood test to ensure he is mine but irregardless he is and will always be. I did not sign his birth certificate becasue I was out of the country in the military and when i got back I saw a different side of her that made me nervous about accepting legal documentation on it. Anyway she is full of threats and I have paid for everything they have needed for 3 years now, what can I do? Thanks heartbroken for my child