What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Idaho
Tomorrow, my son will be starting at a new grade school. His mom has custody of him during the school week, and the school is about an hour away from my home. In previous years, my ex has tried to keep me out of my son's school life, from not sending school pictures to not sending report cards to telling his teacher that "dad is out of the picture" to hiding the fact that he participated in school sports and plays.
Our parenting plan specifically says that I can attend these types of functions and be involved in school life, despite the fact that he isn't with me on school days. When these things came to a head last school year, I learned from the school guidance counselor that my ex had made some outrageous claims about me. She said that I hang around with felons (the only felon I KNOW is HER brother) and that I stole money from my employer. (There was a rather public embezzlement investigation at my place of employment, but it did not involve me, and the individual was arrested.)
I would like to be more proactive and involved at the new school. I'm not sure whom to approach (counselor? teacher? principal?), how to go about it (drop in? e-mail? phone call? letter?) and when to do so (this afternoon vs. sometime after school starts...) How can I go about doing this without it looking like I'm going behind my ex's back or trying to humiliate her in front of school personnel? I'd work with her directly, but she has already told me AGAIN that it would be "too complicated and uncomfortable for her" if I were involved at school.
Do I have to bring in a copy of my parenting plan and then request updates be mailed to me? I don't want to exasperate the staff by being another one of "THOSE" parents, but I want to make sure they know that I am a legally involved parent from the get go. Any suggestions?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
Tomorrow, my son will be starting at a new grade school. His mom has custody of him during the school week, and the school is about an hour away from my home. In previous years, my ex has tried to keep me out of my son's school life, from not sending school pictures to not sending report cards to telling his teacher that "dad is out of the picture" to hiding the fact that he participated in school sports and plays.
Our parenting plan specifically says that I can attend these types of functions and be involved in school life, despite the fact that he isn't with me on school days. When these things came to a head last school year, I learned from the school guidance counselor that my ex had made some outrageous claims about me. She said that I hang around with felons (the only felon I KNOW is HER brother) and that I stole money from my employer. (There was a rather public embezzlement investigation at my place of employment, but it did not involve me, and the individual was arrested.)
I would like to be more proactive and involved at the new school. I'm not sure whom to approach (counselor? teacher? principal?), how to go about it (drop in? e-mail? phone call? letter?) and when to do so (this afternoon vs. sometime after school starts...) How can I go about doing this without it looking like I'm going behind my ex's back or trying to humiliate her in front of school personnel? I'd work with her directly, but she has already told me AGAIN that it would be "too complicated and uncomfortable for her" if I were involved at school.
Do I have to bring in a copy of my parenting plan and then request updates be mailed to me? I don't want to exasperate the staff by being another one of "THOSE" parents, but I want to make sure they know that I am a legally involved parent from the get go. Any suggestions?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?