My entire post did not show up...don't know why. Here it is.
Don't worry, it happens to new posters all the time, especially since the forum was updated. In fact, I wrote a whole LONG reply to you and it disappeared!
SamanthaK said:
It's rather long, maybe too long. I have done everything I could do..and I am physically ill over this. This child has been with either myself or my sister 90% of her life. She thinks of us more as "moms" than she does her mother.
That's a problem. ONLY Mom (and Dad, if there is a legal Dad) have Constitutional rights to the child.
SamanthaK said:
This may have some mistakes/issues because I already did this once and went through and edited and it did not show up. The general idea is as follows. I just need to know what else I can do.
Previous calls were made in February of 2012 to CPS. Also,
calls were made in 2007 from another concerned
person/persons (re (4yr old) only, as (2 yr old) had not been
born yet).
Only issues from the current year or so are considered. Old ones, like from 07, are of no import.
SamanthaK said:
- Tuesday Aug 7, (Mother's Boyfriend, herein referred to as "BF") drops (2yr old )off. (no mother).
(2yr old) has 2 black eyes and a red, welted hand print on
her butt. She tells me "(BF) hit my eye". It is the second
time I have seen a hand print on her butt.
- The reason for the time between the incident and the phone
call to DHS is because (2yr old)'s sister (4yr old)
has a guardian ad litem already and she had been called. I
was waiting to hear the results of that call.
- Friday Aug 10, (mother) coming to get (2yr old) to take her
back to (her apartment, 4-5 hours away). Called DHS. (caseworker1) & (caseworker2) came to the
house. Relayed the info about the black eyes/butt to them.
Gave them pictures and video. They told us they had "enough to
keep her from taking her for the night". (mother) came, spoke
to them for about an hour (alone) and she was allowed to
take the baby. When we came back in the room they were still
talking. (caseworker2) seemed to be joking about the situation. He
told (mother) "You might want to give (BF) a heads up. Tell
him someone may be calling and asking him if he beats your
kids haha" (yes, he giggled a little) When (caseworker1) returned
after (mother) had left with the baby, i told him I was not
happy about (caseworker2)'s behavior. This is not a joke, and
there is nothing to laugh about.
You did the right thing by calling CPS.
The caseworkers are weird. Perhaps you could write a (calm!) letter of complaint to their supervisor.
SamanthaK said:
- Friday Aug 10 con't. (mother) reportedly told (caseworker1) that she
was not going to do any more pole dancing at the bars/clubs and
that (BF) would not be around her kids.She also lied about
how much time she had spent with (2yr old) over the previous
3 weeks.
If she lies to a caseworker, she'll likely be found out.
Pole dancing, stripping, etc. are NOT illegal. It's NOT a problem if she does that for her job. There is no "moral application" to be a parent. Let it go.
SamanthaK said:
-Tuesday Aug 14 - (mother) meets (my sister) in (another town) to bring
her (4yr old). At some point in the day, (4yr old) told
(my sister) that she and (2yr old) were alone with (BF) while
mama "went to work". (4yr old) stated "Sister was bad and
(BF) spanked her." also "(BF) got up with no shirt on in
the morning" Called (caseworker1) twice and left two messages.
Here's where you are messing up.
Mom has every right to select her babysitter/s, and it is none of your business. If Mom allows her bf to spank the child/ren, that is her right.
When the spanking rises to the level of abuse, you called CPS. That was correct.
But following Mom around and freaking out on every little thing is NOT helping anyone. It does NOT matter if her bf wasn't wearing a shirt. You seriously need to calm down.
SamanthaK said:
-Friday Aug 17 - found out (mother) would be working at
(a club where she pole dances) and her shift would start
sometime between 12-1am. Called (caseworker1). (caseworker1) on vacation.
Called (caseworker2) (his supervisor). I told him I was worried
about the baby, and I did not know who she would be with
while mama worked. (caseworker2) stated that I didn't need to know
where the baby was, the investigation was ongoing, they had
nothing set in writing pertaining to (BF) being around the
kids, and that I would have to wait until (caseworker1) gets back
from vacation on Aug. 28th He did not know when (caseworker1) would
be back. He said he "doesn't keep (caseworker1)'s schedule". The
date was on (caseworker1)'s voicemail.
Is there anything I can do besides waiting a week and a half for the first case worker to return from vacation? I am literally ill over this.
You can calm down.
The caseworker is correct. It IS none of your business who babysits and you do not need to know anything.
You're hurting your credibility when you freak out on every little minor (and legal) detail.