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bjpass
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What is the name of your state? Michigan
Let me give you a little background first.
I have only been married for almost 4 1/2 years. The first year was so wonderful. Then he started going out all the time with his friend. Leaving me home with the kids ( 8yr old girl is mine from previous 3 yr old boyand now a 1 yr old girl from him) I was pretty much "barefoot and pregnant" for 3 years. He started treating me like crap. For the last 3 years I have been told that I dont deserve to celebrate Mothers day. That my body needs major work and my breast are too small. I have been told that we we have sex that he needs to imagine the victoria secret girls before he is able to have sex with me. He has just hurt me emotionally so badly. He has been telling me all the time that if this or that dont change that he will leave and take my kids with him. I feel like dying inside everytime. I will not let him take all the blame though I havent been the best wife to him but I have never said thoughtless and hurtfull things to him. He has accused me off cheating on him more times than I can count. I am just at the breaking point and I want out. The only problem is that I havent worked for the last 3+ years so i could stay home to take care of the kids per his request. I have no way to support myself when I go for a divorce but I need to know what I can expect from getting a divorce from this man. What kind of help I can get. If once Divorce papers are filed if we will then be legally seperated. I know that in order to get on my feet I will need either Spousal support payments or get use the welfare system for a time until I can get a job and my own place. I have no family with which I could move in with in the mean time but his parents would let him stay with them while this is all going on. I want my kids not because of the support issue but because I have loved and cared for them there entire lives he is hardly ever home and when he is he almost never does anything with them except yell at them to move out of the way so he can watch the tv. Please tell me what steps to take and what I can do.I have no money to speak of.
If it helps I live in Gratiot County in Michigan. Thanks!
Let me give you a little background first.
I have only been married for almost 4 1/2 years. The first year was so wonderful. Then he started going out all the time with his friend. Leaving me home with the kids ( 8yr old girl is mine from previous 3 yr old boyand now a 1 yr old girl from him) I was pretty much "barefoot and pregnant" for 3 years. He started treating me like crap. For the last 3 years I have been told that I dont deserve to celebrate Mothers day. That my body needs major work and my breast are too small. I have been told that we we have sex that he needs to imagine the victoria secret girls before he is able to have sex with me. He has just hurt me emotionally so badly. He has been telling me all the time that if this or that dont change that he will leave and take my kids with him. I feel like dying inside everytime. I will not let him take all the blame though I havent been the best wife to him but I have never said thoughtless and hurtfull things to him. He has accused me off cheating on him more times than I can count. I am just at the breaking point and I want out. The only problem is that I havent worked for the last 3+ years so i could stay home to take care of the kids per his request. I have no way to support myself when I go for a divorce but I need to know what I can expect from getting a divorce from this man. What kind of help I can get. If once Divorce papers are filed if we will then be legally seperated. I know that in order to get on my feet I will need either Spousal support payments or get use the welfare system for a time until I can get a job and my own place. I have no family with which I could move in with in the mean time but his parents would let him stay with them while this is all going on. I want my kids not because of the support issue but because I have loved and cared for them there entire lives he is hardly ever home and when he is he almost never does anything with them except yell at them to move out of the way so he can watch the tv. Please tell me what steps to take and what I can do.I have no money to speak of.
If it helps I live in Gratiot County in Michigan. Thanks!