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RobStagis
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What is the name of your state? Connecticut. My son, who is 16 now, has a lengthy, though still-sealed juvenile record, all involving alcohol and marijuana use. He was one electronicically-monitored house arrest 8 (SEVEN!) times! He spent 45 days in a state-mandated rehab facility - and got a dirty drug test within two days of his return. Since he turned 16 last October, he's been arrested twice for marijuana possession, once for conspiracy to commit burglary (to steal marijuana from a dealer's house, natch), then again for burglary at once of the other kids who was in on the dealer-conspiracy-arrest when THAT kid squealed like a pig (they had never entered the house).
Be that as it may - we've totally lost control of this kid. He's a product of his friends' environment - dropped out of school, hanging around bored - they're a gestalt. They come up with 'cool' stuff to do that none of them would would think up - or attempt - on their own. He's NEVER been arrested by himself. He's NEVER been arrested for anything violent. He was finally picked up and jailed last night on two warrants - one for the second burglary and one for failing to appear in court when he blew off a court appearance for his Alternative Incarceration (Connecticut program) update, which he would have failed miserably and gone to jail for a week for, anyway. His court appearance is October 6, and we will not sign a bond (set at $100,000) for him.
We own our house, we've always tried to do our best, etc., etc., but we also have had enough (that's the reason for the long story - I was setting the stage) and realize that he's got to pay the piper as well as get treatment that we can't afford on our own. We've petitioned the court to find him a 'Youth in Crisis' which would turn him over to a residential program. We've also formally petitioned them to send him off to Boys' Town or a state-mandated residential treatment facility - we couldn't send him to any other family. We tried that - he got in trouble and was sent home.
My wife and I work for the same company, and it's closing down at the end of September. Besides being disgusted with the kid, as much as we love him (he's the sweetest kid imaginable, believe it or not), we're not going to be able to afford an attorney without breaking the bank or remortgagin the house - which I won't be able to do without a job, eh?
What are my alternatives, please?
Be that as it may - we've totally lost control of this kid. He's a product of his friends' environment - dropped out of school, hanging around bored - they're a gestalt. They come up with 'cool' stuff to do that none of them would would think up - or attempt - on their own. He's NEVER been arrested by himself. He's NEVER been arrested for anything violent. He was finally picked up and jailed last night on two warrants - one for the second burglary and one for failing to appear in court when he blew off a court appearance for his Alternative Incarceration (Connecticut program) update, which he would have failed miserably and gone to jail for a week for, anyway. His court appearance is October 6, and we will not sign a bond (set at $100,000) for him.
We own our house, we've always tried to do our best, etc., etc., but we also have had enough (that's the reason for the long story - I was setting the stage) and realize that he's got to pay the piper as well as get treatment that we can't afford on our own. We've petitioned the court to find him a 'Youth in Crisis' which would turn him over to a residential program. We've also formally petitioned them to send him off to Boys' Town or a state-mandated residential treatment facility - we couldn't send him to any other family. We tried that - he got in trouble and was sent home.
My wife and I work for the same company, and it's closing down at the end of September. Besides being disgusted with the kid, as much as we love him (he's the sweetest kid imaginable, believe it or not), we're not going to be able to afford an attorney without breaking the bank or remortgagin the house - which I won't be able to do without a job, eh?
What are my alternatives, please?