What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Colorado
Hello, everyone. My first time here. Hopefully someone can help me.
I had an abusive marriage with a successful, high-functioning psychopath. (Not exaggerating.) He has been smart enough to not physically hurt me, although he sexually exploited me, among other kinds of abuse. He is very manipulative and convincing, so that many people believe that he is a good person in many ways, including a good husband and a good father. For God's sake, he even gives to and has his own charity! Only I know what kind of man he really is behind the mask, although I came to that awareness too late. Under his gaslighting and manipulation, I kept making excuses for him and believing that he was a good man. (Just Wiki "gaslighting.")
During our marriage, the abuse got so bad that I had a nervous breakdown and was hospitalized for it. During my hospitalization, he continued distorting stories and made nearly everyone he talked with believe that I was �crazy� and a danger to the kids. The unprofessional staff at the hospital were biased by him so they did not listen to my explanation. They made up their minds before they even talked to me, and nothing I said could change their mind. I�ve got records because of it, although CPS did not charge me after investigation.
He continued bullying me with my �records,� which he created. I did not have the resource to fight him, and I didn�t feel that the system would listen to me, so I gave up nearly all my parental rights during the divorce.
The mess did not end there. The divorce did not stop his power game, deception, entitlement, and manipulation. There are many stories, but the immediate crisis is, one of our children is in trouble with the law, so the system is involved. He continues manipulating and causing the system to buy into the false allegations about me, even though HE has been the one responsible for the kids! I haven�t lived with kids for almost 2 years!
I never reported him for domestic violence, and I don�t see how it can work when there has not been evidence and it was not physical. It's only my words against his. And his public image is so positive.
His psychological abuse doesn�t seem to end, and I don�t see how I�m going to fight him after I�ve been officially branded with all the labels. I don�t see how I am going to convince the system to rewrite my story all the way back to years ago and stop bothering me with the false allegations.
How can I ever get out of this hole? I feel so powerless and hopeless that I resent that I didn�t kill myself successfully. Is the law really useless in my situation?
Hello, everyone. My first time here. Hopefully someone can help me.
I had an abusive marriage with a successful, high-functioning psychopath. (Not exaggerating.) He has been smart enough to not physically hurt me, although he sexually exploited me, among other kinds of abuse. He is very manipulative and convincing, so that many people believe that he is a good person in many ways, including a good husband and a good father. For God's sake, he even gives to and has his own charity! Only I know what kind of man he really is behind the mask, although I came to that awareness too late. Under his gaslighting and manipulation, I kept making excuses for him and believing that he was a good man. (Just Wiki "gaslighting.")
During our marriage, the abuse got so bad that I had a nervous breakdown and was hospitalized for it. During my hospitalization, he continued distorting stories and made nearly everyone he talked with believe that I was �crazy� and a danger to the kids. The unprofessional staff at the hospital were biased by him so they did not listen to my explanation. They made up their minds before they even talked to me, and nothing I said could change their mind. I�ve got records because of it, although CPS did not charge me after investigation.
He continued bullying me with my �records,� which he created. I did not have the resource to fight him, and I didn�t feel that the system would listen to me, so I gave up nearly all my parental rights during the divorce.
The mess did not end there. The divorce did not stop his power game, deception, entitlement, and manipulation. There are many stories, but the immediate crisis is, one of our children is in trouble with the law, so the system is involved. He continues manipulating and causing the system to buy into the false allegations about me, even though HE has been the one responsible for the kids! I haven�t lived with kids for almost 2 years!
I never reported him for domestic violence, and I don�t see how it can work when there has not been evidence and it was not physical. It's only my words against his. And his public image is so positive.
His psychological abuse doesn�t seem to end, and I don�t see how I�m going to fight him after I�ve been officially branded with all the labels. I don�t see how I am going to convince the system to rewrite my story all the way back to years ago and stop bothering me with the false allegations.
How can I ever get out of this hole? I feel so powerless and hopeless that I resent that I didn�t kill myself successfully. Is the law really useless in my situation?