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broke&stuck
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From Michigan here.
My mom had a stroke two and a half years ago when she was 54.
My father needed someone to take care of her so I told him I would do it, because he couldn't afford a nursing home. So I didn't go to college like I was planing to. We made an agreement that he would pay me for my services, I took a short course in nursing care so I would know what to do and I have been taking care of her ever sence.
Because of it being hard on my daughter to have to wake up at 4 in the morning to go to my parents house with me, and because after working 14 hours a day I didnt have the energy to do any house work at my own house, I moved my mom to my house to make things easier on us all. It also helped my dad because he didnt have to wake up in the middle of the night to take care of my mom.
But the problem is my dad dose not pay me enough. He was layed off for a while and I received no money at all for about 5 months and this is about the 4th time this has happened sence I have worked for him. My husband works but it is no where near the ammount we need to live off of. My dad is in debt to me about 12,000 dollars. And he keeps stalling to pay me. He pays me a weekly wage right now because he is working, but it is only 200 and sometimes it is nothing. I dont want to be greedy I know he has bills to and I am working for him to help my mom and him out, but I cant even keep my utility bills paid and sometimes we eat romen noodles for dinner because we cant afford food. He owns two houses and has the money to get a loan for my sisters car ( who dosen't help with my mom at all). But he says he can't pay me. My mom has a trust fund and he asked them to pay me what he ows me but they wouldn't do it. They said they would only pay for things in the present. So my dad asked them to pay me 400 a week but they also refused to do this saying it had to be financial distress or a medical emergency. My dad said he was going to contest this but that was a month ago. If he were to contest it I know that they would pay, But he is more worried about his bills and his taxes than getting me the money that he is soposed to pay. And in the past month my car broke down and is now gone, my husband lost his job, our bills were allready backed up and now we have shutoff notices and for somereason my dad dosent seem to care. I have taked to him but he stalls to get anything done. I dont want to take him to court but this is just too much. I am only 21, I have a daughter and one on the way, I am going to college in august( three years late) And I am so broke I cant buy a lightbulb. I have helped them out isnt it time they returned the favor?
Is there anything I can do? Sorry this is so long.
My mom had a stroke two and a half years ago when she was 54.
My father needed someone to take care of her so I told him I would do it, because he couldn't afford a nursing home. So I didn't go to college like I was planing to. We made an agreement that he would pay me for my services, I took a short course in nursing care so I would know what to do and I have been taking care of her ever sence.
Because of it being hard on my daughter to have to wake up at 4 in the morning to go to my parents house with me, and because after working 14 hours a day I didnt have the energy to do any house work at my own house, I moved my mom to my house to make things easier on us all. It also helped my dad because he didnt have to wake up in the middle of the night to take care of my mom.
But the problem is my dad dose not pay me enough. He was layed off for a while and I received no money at all for about 5 months and this is about the 4th time this has happened sence I have worked for him. My husband works but it is no where near the ammount we need to live off of. My dad is in debt to me about 12,000 dollars. And he keeps stalling to pay me. He pays me a weekly wage right now because he is working, but it is only 200 and sometimes it is nothing. I dont want to be greedy I know he has bills to and I am working for him to help my mom and him out, but I cant even keep my utility bills paid and sometimes we eat romen noodles for dinner because we cant afford food. He owns two houses and has the money to get a loan for my sisters car ( who dosen't help with my mom at all). But he says he can't pay me. My mom has a trust fund and he asked them to pay me what he ows me but they wouldn't do it. They said they would only pay for things in the present. So my dad asked them to pay me 400 a week but they also refused to do this saying it had to be financial distress or a medical emergency. My dad said he was going to contest this but that was a month ago. If he were to contest it I know that they would pay, But he is more worried about his bills and his taxes than getting me the money that he is soposed to pay. And in the past month my car broke down and is now gone, my husband lost his job, our bills were allready backed up and now we have shutoff notices and for somereason my dad dosent seem to care. I have taked to him but he stalls to get anything done. I dont want to take him to court but this is just too much. I am only 21, I have a daughter and one on the way, I am going to college in august( three years late) And I am so broke I cant buy a lightbulb. I have helped them out isnt it time they returned the favor?
Is there anything I can do? Sorry this is so long.