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Ohiogal

Queen Bee
Wow, ok alot of you guys are really cruel.
No. We are really honest.
I never ever said my son was any kind of saint.
Reread what you have said in your others posts and even in this one.

I do the best as a single working mother to raise my children. I don't always know the right things to do or say as a parent but I would say my children are not retarded or whatever the rude comment someone made about him.
No one said he was retarded. What was said he would have to prove that he mentally deficient if he wanted to show why he shouldn't be prosecuted.

I guess my words got a little jumbled when I said he didn't know it was illegal.
IGNORANCE OF THE LAW IS NOT A DEFENSE.

He really did not know it was illegal rock or no rock and he did not think it was as serious as people are making this. Again, I did not say he didn't do anything wrong. But even I know, growing up in a pretty conservative, christian family that boys and girls at the age of 14 especially boys are taken over by hormones.
Really? you are making excuses for him. Conservative, Christian boys should know how to control themselves and not use hormones as an excuse.


I see worse than this on TV half the time.
BULL. YOu do NOT see naked MINORS on tv anytime. You do not see CHILD PORNOGRAPHY on your television half the time, all the time or any time. Unless you are breaking the law. Which would by the way make you a pedophile. You are not admitting to being a pedophile are you? If you are, that explains your son.
I am so sorry that people don't feel the same. It's not about my son it's about this whole thing being blown out of proportion.
Sorry but it is NOT being blown out of proportion.

I get lude emails and all kinds of stuff in my inbox that I just ignore and go on. If somebody wants to send me that crap go ahead I don't have to look at it and it sure as hell is not going to change the person I am and make me want to go commit a sex crime or something because I saw a naked person. Common Sense. You want to talk about common sense. I bet this happens every minute of the day how the hell do they think they are going to stop something like this unless they ban cell phones which I think is a great idea.
YOU can ban cell phones. Take it away from your son. Then your son couldn't receive or send nude pictures that are child pornography. But that would require you to parent.
I have a lot of common sense and I am going to get hate mail because I believe this was a stupid kid thing. Sorry if you all think I am stupid for thinking this wasn't as serious some people think it is.
Oh well.

However now I know what this world is coming to and we have to face charges that will hurt my son for the rest of his life. Like his diabetes isn't enough to live with.
Give me a break. Diabetes? Child porn? You should have taught your son better.
Now he has to figure out how to get a job (which he was so exited about when he turned 15) all because some slut of a girl decided to take her clothes off for a quick thrill.
SLUT OF GIRL? What is your boy then? A john? A pimp? Oh he is a child pornographer who got off on seeing the naked child. You would have had sympathy somewhat but for this (and yes I read ahead before I started replying). I am sure if your son rapes someone you will say she was asking for it and he was just overcome by hormones. Right? Because your poor diabetic son can't control himself and he is just doing what boys will do. Boys will be boys. Right? You should give your son more credit.

I guess if I have to go to jail and my son will be going to jail or whatever I will just have to face what is coming to us. Thanks for all your help. I thought I was going to find out that we were going to be able to fight this instead I found out that I have draining exhausting,stress filled days to look forward to.
And probably more after this if that is your attitude.
Not to mention being a single mom
Poor baby. Would you like some cheese to go with that whine?
and being to afford a good attorney at their prices.
Your son could always ask for counsel to be appointed for him if he is indigent.

It was a picture of boobs for God sakes. Im done here. Basically I found out we are screwed and no lawyer is going to be able to help us. What is wierd is if we tried to defend ourselves we would be screwed but if we pay thousands of dollars to someone just because they know legal jargon we MIGHT just Might have a small chance but from what every one is saying it won't matter either way

I agree. With you attitude it won't matter either way because even if he gets out of this trouble he will end up back because mommy feels he can't control his hormones and that should excuse him. And the boobs belonged to a CHILD. A MINOR. You really need to wake up. Oh and if YOU know that, that means YOU saw the picture and maybe even YOU could be charged for child pornography.
 


Ohiogal

Queen Bee
The law is not always about what you or I might think of as "common sense". And all because something happens all the time does not mean it is still not a crime. Theft occurs all the time, speeding occurs all the time, child molestations and domestic violence occur all the time ... that's not a reason to give the offense a pass when it IS discovered.

The offense is serious because of the potential penalties attached. Whether any of us think it SHOULD be serious or not is beside the point. The fact is, the potential legal consequences are serious. Whether they will be fully applied or not no one can say.


No one said that.

- Carl
Hey Carl. Did you notice she saw the picture -- well she knows EXACTLY what was in the picture. Did you also notice that the girl is a SLUT and her boy is just a child overcome by hormones? Did you also notice that she said that banning cell phones is a good idea but I highly doubt she took the cell phone away from her son or will forbid him from EVER having another while he is a child?
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
Hamilton County Article

Teens bare all on phones
More 'sexting' nude pictures
By Cindy Kranz • [email protected] • January 13, 2009

In the Cincinnati area, where legend holds that trends come 10 years late, "sexting" arrived well ahead of time.


Teens here are taking nude photos of themselves or others, sending them on their cell phones or posting them online.

Some teens do it as a joke.

For others, it's the new bold pickup line to get a date.

A year ago, a 19-year-old Goshen cheerleading coach was charged and prosecuted for a misdemeanor, contributing to the unruliness of a child, for taking a topless photo of herself and a 15-year-old girl. A Glen Este Middle School boy was taken to juvenile court during the last school year for taking explicit photos of his girlfriend.

The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy and CosmoGirl.com last month revealed results of a study that showed 20 percent of teens say they have sent or posted nude or semi-nude pictures or video of themselves.

The results don't surprise local teens, school officials, police officers and others.

• Are Cincy teens ahead on the 'sexting' trend?


"If I were to go through the cell phones in this building right now of 1,500 students, I would venture to say that half to two-thirds have indecent photos, either of themselves or somebody else in school," said Jim Brown, school resource officer at Glen Este High School.

Turpin High School Principal Peggy Johnson thinks that the results would be similar - about 50-50 - in her building.

According to the national study, most teens who send sexually suggestive content send to boyfriends or girlfriends, while others say they send such material to those they want to date or hook up with or to someone they only know online.

Brown, who also is Glen Este Middle School's resource officer, said of the 14-year-old boy's cell phone photos last year: "They were as graphic as you would see in any Penthouse magazine, I've been told."
The study also showed that 44 percent of teens say it's common for sexually explicit images and text messages - sexting - to be shared with people other than the intended recipient.

"Guys who get pictures like this from girls, I don't think girls understand that guys gossip way more than girls," said Taylor McCleod, 17, a Withrow University High School senior who is a teen leader for the Postponing Sexual Involvement program.

"And when a guy gets a picture like that, he's not just going to keep it between him and the girl. He's going to take that and show every guy that he knows that knows that girl. And every time somebody looks at her, it's going to be a loss of respect for her."

Stakes can be high
The stakes of taking and sending sexually explicit photos can be high, compared to the thrill at the time.

The consequences can range from humiliation to losing out on jobs to going to court.

When kids are 14 or 15, Brown said, they don't often make the right decisions."They think, 'I have the right to decide what's best for me.' The next thing you know, it's on YouTube, and you become an international star because you're exposing part of your body. ... Then, they want to retrieve their good reputation, and they can't."

Kids have lost scholarships and jobs because of what's posted on Web sites, Brown said.
Many kids have "wised up," taking photos of body parts, but not faces, to avoid detection.

And while some teens intend for the suggestive photos to be seen by only one person, they might not think those photos will be forwarded or that something posted on the Internet lives on.

"I don't think it even crosses their mind," Daniel "Woody" Breyer, chief deputy prosecutor in Clermont County, said. "I think that kids are in the moment. What's going to happen today? What are we doing tonight? What are we doing this weekend?"

Going to court might not cross their minds, either.

Prosecutors evaluate the intent of the photo when deciding if charges are warranted.

"If this is clearly just a joke and everyone involved thinks it's funny, now somebody's mom sees it and gets mad. Technically, a charge could be filed," said Julie Wilson, chief assistant prosecutor and public information officer for the Hamilton County Prosecutor's Office.

"We're asking police to evaluate if it's a criminal charge or a matter that could be handled by the school or parents. For whatever reason, we have not seen a lot of these cases."

With so many implications, why do kids do it?

Besides peer pressure, the practice is provoked by what's considered acceptable in this culture, Breyer said, citing videos, such as "Girls Gone Wild."

"What is acceptable behavior in our country has just gone through the floor," Breyer said.

Christopher Kraus, director of the Postponing Sexual Involvement program at Cincinnati Children's Hospital Medical Center, said that in his 20 years of working in adolescent medicine at the hospital, he's yet to see a teenage trend that does not mirror a larger adult trend.

"Adolescent sexuality is part of normal human development," Kraus said. "Teens are trying to figure out how to express their sexuality appropriately. They are learning, and they are learning from adults."

Kraus, who also is project manager for the Ohio Department of Health's new Guidelines for Sexual Health and Adoption Education, Grades 7-12, said teens are learning how to sort out many sexual messages in the media, including text messages.

"Some messages are complimentary. Some are offensive. Some are confusing. Each message is different."

'Kids Gone Wild'
Another teen Postponing Sexual Involvement leader, Mariah McCollum, who has received unwanted and unsolicited photos from an acquaintance, talked about the trend.

"Every day or every other day, I hear about a new video of one of my peers. There's a new video going around involving sexual activities," said Mariah, a 17-year-old senior at Withrow University High School.

"I think it's pretty lame for a male to send you pictures without consent. ... Who says I want to see your private areas?" Mariah said, adding that she lost a lot of respect for the boy who sent it.

Meanwhile, Brown said parents need to pay attention to their kids' use of technology.

Part of the problem is that kids' inhibitions are knocked away by alcohol-fueled parties, where many sexually explicit photo opportunities occur, he said.

"It's 'Kids Gone Wild,' with technology being provided by the parents," he said.
 

CdwJava

Senior Member
Hey Carl. Did you notice she saw the picture -- well she knows EXACTLY what was in the picture. Did you also notice that the girl is a SLUT and her boy is just a child overcome by hormones? Did you also notice that she said that banning cell phones is a good idea but I highly doubt she took the cell phone away from her son or will forbid him from EVER having another while he is a child?
My kids would have known this was wrong and mine are younger than hers Or they were when they came to this epiphany. Heck, my boys dime off their cousins (two of them are 15 year old girls) when they have racy pictures on MySpace!

My oldest - when he was 13 - made some crank calls one night using his cell phone (duh!) to seven acquaintances. Unfortunately for him, ONE of the acquaintances showed her mother when she started crying, and mom just happened to know MY wife (the virtue of a small town and my wife being a teacher). Mom gets a call, I get told, I bite my tongue to avoid blowing a gasket, and my boy makes apologetic phone calls to each of his "victims" and their parents, and has to personally deliver handwritten apologies the next day. He lost his phone for ... 6 weeks I think?

And while I am not making excuses for the girl in this affair, SHE sent it to the one boy ... HE made the decision to pass it along after that. I strongly suspect that had they come clean after the one exchange between them, the authorities would be able to deal with this as a youthful indiscretion. But, now, there are too many people involved and the distribution appears to have been too wide to just resolve it with a finger wagging session.

Time for that attorney.

- Carl
 

cyjeff

Senior Member
Anyone want to place a bet that if it were her daughter's "mistake" that allowed a naked picture of her adolescent rack out into the entire school body that she would be demanding the heads of the children on spikes out in front as a warning to others?

Or, better, asking us how to bring civil suit against those that distributed the picture due to the trauma her daughter was feeling and the likelihood it would effect her future employment?

anyone?
 

cyjeff

Senior Member
My kids would have known this was wrong and mine are younger than hers Or they were when they came to this epiphany. Heck, my boys dime off their cousins (two of them are 15 year old girls) when they have racy pictures on MySpace!

My oldest - when he was 13 - made some crank calls one night using his cell phone (duh!) to seven acquaintances. Unfortunately for him, ONE of the acquaintances showed her mother when she started crying, and mom just happened to know MY wife (the virtue of a small town and my wife being a teacher). Mom gets a call, I get told, I bite my tongue to avoid blowing a gasket, and my boy makes apologetic phone calls to each of his "victims" and their parents, and has to personally deliver handwritten apologies the next day. He lost his phone for ... 6 weeks I think?

And while I am not making excuses for the girl in this affair, SHE sent it to the one boy ... HE made the decision to pass it along after that. I strongly suspect that had they come clean after the one exchange between them, the authorities would be able to deal with this as a youthful indiscretion. But, now, there are too many people involved and the distribution appears to have been too wide to just resolve it with a finger wagging session.

Time for that attorney.

- Carl
Ya know, next time I am in northern California, the latte's are on me.

Do you know that I just took my 15 year old on a tour of a local barn owned by a friend of mine... she screwed up, but it was a "do over" ... and made it clear that cleaning the stalls was going to be her next punishment.

I think I may have a man crush on you.
 

CdwJava

Senior Member
Ya know, next time I am in northern California, the latte's are on me.

Do you know that I just took my 15 year old on a tour of a local barn owned by a friend of mine... she screwed up, but it was a "do over" ... and made it clear that cleaning the stalls was going to be her next punishment.

I think I may have a man crush on you.
Manly hugs, only ... pat on the back, mutterings about the late great NFL season, and commenting on the melons on Jessica Simpson ... :)

That's one of the virtues of living in the country - I have access to such forced labor as well! My oldest has complained about not having any money and not having a job this summer because he'll be 15, and I have two friends with ranches that are willing to take him on as a hand a couple days a week! He says he likes horses and wants to learn more about them, so there ya go!

One of the waitresses here at Denny's had a good plan. A couple years back her then 14 year old daughter complained about school and said she would prefer to drop out and go to work. So, mom suggested she take a week and go to work with grandma and grandpa in the strawberry fields. So, she did ... prospects of dollar signs leaping in her head. After three days, she crawled back to mom and said she wanted to go back to school, go to college, and get a job where she could use her mind and not her back. Her mom and dad then did the life lesson thing ... grandma and grandpa came from Mexico without a skill and worked their behind soft to become naturalized and to earn enough money to make a better life for their children ... the children worked hard to make enough money to give THEIR children a chance to go to college ... and now, the third generation has that chance to go to college because of the hard work and sacrifice of the preceding two generations (dad is a foreman at an orchard, and mom is a waitress - and they are both good people). So, now, the daughter has 3.5+ at high school, works at KFC, and is looking at colleges already.

It can be nice to have back-breaking labor available to alter wandering minds!

- Carl
 

partlysunny29

Junior Member
Thank you

I wanted to thank everyone who gave me legal advice. I apoligize if I seemed out of line. I am very upset as I am sure any one with children could understand. Actually since I have been able see some insight on this and think about this is the way the courts would look at it I may be able to deal with it a little better. I seriously did not know it was a sex crime to be quite honest and many other people I havetalked to that are clost to me did not know and had the same reaction as I did. My son knows it was wrong but he did not know that it was a crime either until now. I guess we have been living under a rock or something. We know it's wrong but not every thing you do in life wrong is a crime. It seems there is no learning from your parents anymore it's all about putting them in the systems hands, strike one your out. He has been punished and is very very scared about what might happen to him and we have been talking about it alot and hope that we can cope with whatever out come comes out of this. He is a very strong person and actually pretty intellegent for his age. That does not mean he always knows he is doing every thing right. So my apologies to every one that I may have offended and I do thank you for all yor legal advice. We did find out a little over the weekend and the girl did distribute this to more than one person and the other boy also did as well. It was just they pointed the finger at my son like he was the one that started it all and I knew that was not the case. I don't know how I am going to come up with the money but we are ready to fight the felony charges if they do come our way. I don't feel he this is worthy of the courts ruining his life and will fight this the best way I can. Like I told my son it is just something we are going to have to get through and he will have to be strong through all of it, but I will be there for him every step of the way. If he was a murderer I don't think I would feel the same way, or a drug dealer, or a rapist or a drunk or whatever but he is really just an teen age boy that caught up in the stupid teenage bull crap. It really is not like he got his "jollies' as someone put it. Well anyway, again thank you all. I will not bother you anymore with my opinions. My boyfriend says this blog is upsetting me too much. He has read every ones opinions and doesn't really believe any of it but I am trying to make him understand that it is this serious. Friends and family are very shocked at how the courts would actually call him a sex offender for this as well. We are not hillbilies or uneducated people either but apparently we live under a rock as someone said. All this did was make me feel like an awful parent for not saying to my son, now honey if you ever get a picture of a naked girl don't forward it ok"
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
You do realize that if you saw the pics then you are just as guilty as he is for viewing child pornography? And apparently you saw the pictures. YOUR ATTACK on the girl is unwarranted and quite frankly appalling. It does not excuse your son and makes you look like an immature pathetic example to your son.

Oh and did you ban your son from having a cell phone until he is 18?
 

partlysunny29

Junior Member
No, i did not see the picture you freak! (Ohiogal) What is your problem. You have nothing better to do every day then sit on here and break down peoples words and utter meaningless things to people to see what kind of charge you will get out of them. GET A JOB!!!!! Say what you will and thank you for who ever put the Hamilton County Article on there it was very informative and it goes to show that Ohiogal doesn't always seem to know what she is talking about. Apparently you didn't read my last blog. I told you I found out more info and she had sent it to more than just the other boy and the other boy that sent it to my son sent it others as well so shut up. I am just trying to get all the facts. And if it was my daughter that sent it I hope to hell she could get over the humiliation she caused herself which apparently she doesn't seem to mind it too much. Done with you with OHIOGAL or girl or whoever you may be. You are very bitter about something in your life and really need to get over it.
 

partlysunny29

Junior Member
Anyone want to place a bet that if it were her daughter's "mistake" that allowed a na

I thought I was coming here for some legal advice. You don't know me and if you would read the previous blogs you would see I don't feel that way at all. She should get whats coming to her. She embarrassed herself. That's it that's final, no more to say. She has to deal with it. Like I said before if it was my son, than he would have to deal with the embarrassment and humility and understand that it was his fault. Blame where blame is due. Like my boyfriend said you can't sit and talk to irrational internet freaks and think you are going to find the answers to your questions. I told him I thought I was just asking a simple question and getting legal advice and people started getting wierd. "Well what do you expect from a bunch of internet freak's stop reading their crap!" He's totally right. Bye
 

partlysunny29

Junior Member
Oh and did you ban your son from having a cell phone until he is 18?[/QUOTE]

You do realize that if you saw the pics then you are just as guilty as he is for viewing child pornography? And apparently you saw the pictures. YOUR ATTACK on the girl is unwarranted and quite frankly appalling. It does not excuse your son and makes you look like an immature pathetic example to your son.

Oh and did you ban your son from having a cell phone until he is 18?
Ah, duh!!!! and do you even have kids, are you a man hater, LOL you seem to be all about it being ok for the girl. Oh poor little inocent girl I'm ATTACKING" LOL YOUR HILLARIOUS. Have you sent your picture out to someone or something before and humiliated yourself? Ahh poor thing. That must be you in the newspaper article huh! And where the hell did you get that I saw the picture. Looks like your on here pretty much of the day and night from maybe you need some sleep you obsesive blog freak.
 

cyjeff

Senior Member
I thought I was coming here for some legal advice. You don't know me and if you would read the previous blogs you would see I don't feel that way at all. She should get whats coming to her. She embarrassed herself. That's it that's final, no more to say. She has to deal with it. Like I said before if it was my son, than he would have to deal with the embarrassment and humility and understand that it was his fault. Blame where blame is due. Like my boyfriend said you can't sit and talk to irrational internet freaks and think you are going to find the answers to your questions. I told him I thought I was just asking a simple question and getting legal advice and people started getting wierd. "Well what do you expect from a bunch of internet freak's stop reading their crap!" He's totally right. Bye
lady, you called your son, the pornography distributor, a christian kid with active hormones and the girl, the victim of your son's action, a slut.

Soooo... if your son had an embarrassing and potentially criminal nude picture of him taken and you found out it was all over the school, would you tell your son that "blame where blame is due" and that he should just get over it?

Fine, I will tell you what you want to hear...

Your boy is an ANGEL... he should be allowed to view all the child porn he wants and THEN to send it to anyone he wants because he is just a red blooded American boy (cue the music)... and it is all that girl's fault for taking a picture of herself... bad girl.

In the meantime, I recommend competent legal counsel.
 

cyjeff

Senior Member
Ah, duh!!!! and do you even have kids, are you a man hater, LOL you seem to be all about it being ok for the girl. Oh poor little inocent girl I'm ATTACKING" LOL YOUR HILLARIOUS. Have you sent your picture out to someone or something before and humiliated yourself? Ahh poor thing. That must be you in the newspaper article huh! And where the hell did you get that I saw the picture. Looks like your on here pretty much of the day and night from maybe you need some sleep you obsesive blog freak.
Nothing anyone else did is an excuse for your son's criminal behavior.

Whether the picture was a girl at school or one he got from the internet of a stranger, the penalty is the same.
 

>Charlotte<

Lurker
You certainly don't have to "read their crap", but you do have to accept the reality within the posts that angered you. It has been stated more than once that this possibly might end up being not as bad as it could be for your son but, as it stands now, he's facing some very serious consequences.

Yell and stomp your feet and call us all unemployed jerks with nothing better to do if that makes you feel better, but that's not going to deflate the seriousness of your sons problem.
 

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