More personal opinions - don't you just love it!!!
The last thing that the child(ren) need to deal with is mom bringing home the new boyfriend and him spending the night.
There is nothing wrong with mom having a social life after the divorce. But if the child is home at the time - end your date at the door. If the child is at his fathers - invite your boyfriend over for the evening.
There are no guarantees that this new gentleman will be the new love of her life and they will marry. In all odds - as sad as they sound - she will probably date a few men before she finds another "true love". Why subject her child to it. Why let the child form an attachment to the new boyfriend, only to lose it when the relationship ends. It would be like dealing with a divorce everytime that mom changes boyfriends. Not to mention the "moral" lessons - or lack off - that she is demonstrating to the child.
Remember - JMO - Don't you just love that free speech right? LOL!
*******I'm not going to edit anything, but we apparently posted at the same time and I just read your last post. Personally, I would still end my dates at the door when she was there. You are her example of what is "normal" for a relationship. You are teaching her the "type of man" that she will probably look for in a relationship later. ***************
The last thing that the child(ren) need to deal with is mom bringing home the new boyfriend and him spending the night.
There is nothing wrong with mom having a social life after the divorce. But if the child is home at the time - end your date at the door. If the child is at his fathers - invite your boyfriend over for the evening.
There are no guarantees that this new gentleman will be the new love of her life and they will marry. In all odds - as sad as they sound - she will probably date a few men before she finds another "true love". Why subject her child to it. Why let the child form an attachment to the new boyfriend, only to lose it when the relationship ends. It would be like dealing with a divorce everytime that mom changes boyfriends. Not to mention the "moral" lessons - or lack off - that she is demonstrating to the child.
Remember - JMO - Don't you just love that free speech right? LOL!
*******I'm not going to edit anything, but we apparently posted at the same time and I just read your last post. Personally, I would still end my dates at the door when she was there. You are her example of what is "normal" for a relationship. You are teaching her the "type of man" that she will probably look for in a relationship later. ***************
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