Parenting plan and vacation days

[JustinLukas]

What is the name of your state?CA

My ex and I are writing a parenting plan regarding our 17 month old son. We will have joint physical and legal custody. For vacation days, my ex wants to be able to take our son for 5 nights in a row and I think this is way too much time away from either parent. I was thinking 2 or 3 nights until our son is around 5 years old and then 5 nights is no problem.

I have heard that since infants/toddlers have such a short memory span that too much time away isn't good - are there any guidelines I can use in our plan that support or negate my thinking?

Thanks!

 

[snostar]

If you don't want the decision to be left up to a judge then be reasonable, try compromising on 4 nights. Really, as long as the child is familiar with both parents the extended visit will not likely adversely effect the child.

 

[bulldogg70]

What is the name of your state?CA

My ex and I are writing a parenting plan regarding our 17 month old son. We will have joint physical and legal custody. For vacation days, my ex wants to be able to take our son for 5 nights in a row and I think this is way too much time away from either parent. I was thinking 2 or 3 nights until our son is around 5 years old and then 5 nights is no problem.

I have heard that since infants/toddlers have such a short memory span that too much time away isn't good - are there any guidelines I can use in our plan that support or negate my thinking?

Thanks!

It is good you both are coming together and working it out. I would not and do not think that a 5 night here or there would cause anykind of damage at all.