What is the name of your state?arkansas. I recently went to court for divorce and the judge ordered that we sell the house. My ex spouse lives in the house at present and I need to know how to go about listing the house to sell or if I can even do that. Is it something that only she can do and how will I know if I am getting a raw deal if she is the one that lists it? Also, the court awarded me half of the retirement that she has. How does that work? I don't even know how much is in it. I just need to know what how this all works.